or to call me in the am to give me a pharmacy number and I would call the DR to have an inhaler called in for her.
Perhaps "Here is your doctor's phone number; you can call them with your pharmacy's number, and they'll call a prescription in to the store for you to pick up."
By volunteering to call her doctor, you were sending the message that her health is *your* responsibility. You were tying the apron strings on, not cutting them.
[people who don't know, bcs some adults might not realize this either] how the world works is part of our job at every age. And it's something we might do for a total stranger.
But the real thing you should do is hang up on her and stop listening to her whine.
Oh, and be amazed! "What do you mean, I'm doing nothing to help you? This is your life. It's your body. It's your doctor. I'm sorry you feel crappy, but you have the ways at your disposal to deal with it. I'm not going to sit her and listen to you feel sorry for yourself. Gotta go!" <click>
W/ my DD, I've realized that she was relying on me to make dentist appointments, etc., and she didn't realize she needed to allow for follow-up visits, etc. She's a rookie, and we used to do all that stuff for her.
I've been making sure all along that she has the info she needs--an address book w/ family addresses; a health notebook w/ info about her doctors in it; an insurance card to carry in her wallet.
It's just that sometimes I have knowledge she doesn't, simply because I've lived so long (I know that you need to hustle and get the first dentist appt., bcs if you need a cavity filled, they're not going to do it that day--but I had to learn that.