As I understand it, there was a pretty, um 'robust' debate after the FIL left, but Jo (friend) didn't want to have a massive row in front of him. I've met the FIL once at a barbecue and he was perfectly charming, but I know from what she's said that he's constantly playing power games to try and 'prove' that his relationship with his children (not just her husband but his siblings too) is stronger than the ones they have with their various spouses.
Just to say to some posters - this isn't my situation, it's someone I'm friends with. Sorry if that wasn't clear.
That said, on a separate tack, my own MIL asked Mr Star and I to buy her a new phone while we were in town at the weekend. While we were out, she called DH's mobile and asked if we could also get her a new kettle, as hers had started to leak, and she'd actually quite like a matching toaster. Obviously she intended to pay us back, but we had to buy them in the first place - the ones she wanted came in total to around £100. And because she doesn't do internet or telephone banking, she then wrote us a cheque and we had to go back into town to pay it in, and it takes time to clear. Money is tight at the moment and we could really have done without that..... I have told Mr Star that in future we need to ask her to pay for expensive items up front. (I have tried to get her to do online shopping but she won't.)