My DD is in college and is overseas now for a course.
When she got there, she posted something about the English names of cocktails in a bar she went to in Other Country. They were funny, and it was funny that they were in English.
My comment was, "ARE YOU GOING TO **BARS** AND ***DRINKING***?!?!?!"
I meant it to be a joke about how "shocked" I, her mother, would be if she did so. She's really not a drinker, very conservative in her behavior, and cautious. And I would *not* at all be shocked--she's nearly 19, she has good sense, she can drink, as far as I'm concerned. (I know it's not legal here in the US except w/ us, so I'd prefer she follow the laws, but I really don't care.)
Knowing my DD, I'm pretty sure she got the joke. But later, I wondered if I should have not said something like that. But then again, she was the one who mentioned cocktails.
Then later, someone in her group posted a couple of group pics of them and tagged her. One of them was really fuzzy. I *almost* commented, "This one is very fuzzy--were you guys drinking?"
And then I didn't. Because, well, it just felt like it was best for someone ELSE not to bring up the subject on their pictures. (Esp. since I didn't know the other kids--but even if it had been on my DD's wall, I shouldn't, I don't think.)
There's a lot of talk about how college kids shouldn't post pics of themselves boozing it up, in case future employers think they're untrustworthy. So I figured it was best not to raise the topic for someone else.