I am writing this to ask for the wise readers perspective on an issue...
background - My mother has a history of being self centred and needing to make things about her
backgorund 2 - I am currently 8 and half weeks pregnant (YAY!). My husband and I have told only immediate family, parents and siblings, and want to wait till I am out of the first trimester till we tell everyone else. We know the first trimester can be dangerous and are enjoying spending time getting to use to the idea ourselves before we tell the world.
The story -
I had this conversation with my mother about 2 weeks ago
mum: I am going to tell the people at work
me: We are not telling yet, and you work at the high school I went and we are waiting to tell people we know
mum: Well I have too
me: no, don't
mum: well I am going to anyway
my husband put it down to her wording it badly and just being excited about our news
fast forward to yesterday and my mum and I are driving to an extending family gathering (grandparents, uncle, aunties ect). Mum ask if she can tell people. I said I haven't even had my first anti-natal appointment yet and we want to wait. My again said she 'had too', I said 'no'
We get to the gathering and when no one is around in a quiet voice mum reminds not to eat the smoked salmon (no recommended during pregnancy), I thank her. Everyone then sits down to eat and mum turns to me and loudly states 'you shouldn't eat soft cheese now'. The rest of table stops and stares and aunty points out the hard cheeses. Later as everyone is leaving, my mum and aunty are standing at one end of the dinning room and me at the other (with a 8 seater table and the rest of the family between us) and i hear mum say in a fake whisper 'its going to be the 24th February (my due date), so when we get together in february..., she then uses her hands to mimic a pregnant belly. We then left and this was the conversation we had in the car
me: you told them
mum: I had too
me: but i asked you not too
mum: i just told your aunty, how did you know?
me: you weren't subtle, i think the rest of the room figured it out too
mum: but I had too!
My husband and I really annoyed because she knew we didn't want anyone to know, she even asked me if she could tell and I said no. She didn't listen to anything we wanted. She has also robbed us of the opportunity to tell our family of our first child, i chance we will never get back
Ehell, Am i over reacting (which due to hormones i have been doing a lot lately) or is there a clear violation here
(btw using the Australian spelling of 'mom')