For the first child there were at least two showers, I attended one. For the second child I attended a diapers only shower and honestly don't know if there was another one.
I don't want to make it sound like I'm too judgemental about them doing this in a different order than is "expected" because I would have gone to a wedding shower and given a gift prior to the two children and I still would have attended the baby showers with gifts.
It just feels out of line to come in 10 years later and want all the hoopla that goes with a BWW, I don't begrudge them the big wedding and nice reception. It's having three showers (no, I was not invited to all three) with a long registry list that I resent. And it's not that they shouldn't get nice things because they lived together prior, it's just, I don't know how to put it exactly - greedy sort of.
Almost like, here we are having our wedding and even though we have been living together 10 years and have an established household with children - we feel entitled to have three showers and replace all of our stuff with new stuff - that YOU buy us. Okay, well here it is, I guess this is what I'm thinking...
I almost feel like someone might want to renew their vows every 10 years and then expect all of their stuff to be replaced by their family & friends ... does that make sense? Imagine having three showers every 10 years to get all your stuff replaced with NEW STUFF!