In my community, it is very common to ask for prayers. Most of my friends are from my church. I can have anything from 20-50 requests for prayers in my feed in any given week. so my asking for prayers didn't raise red flags per se. again, we see a request, we pray.
And it wasn't a REQEUST to not put on facebook, it was a DEMAND. MIL has control issues. She has never had anything come back to her from facebook that I have put on there, because I don't post that stuff on there. The demand was made to me, because I have a facebook, others don't. She made different demands on them, suited to their past times.
The only reason she told my husband she was leaving on the day she did was because we saw her in our bank and she had guilty feelings because she was cleaning out the accounts. We had no way of knowing that was what she was doing. when someone is in a bank, it's to do their banking business. I was doing my own so I wasn't paying attention, but she told DH that she was afraid that we would know something was up with the traffic going by our house, and seeing her in the bank. She was going to have DH pick FIL and other family member and take him back to empty house. DH wouldn't even know she was gone until dropping them off.
No, you aren't harsh, and I appreciate the well wishes. It is just really hard trying to explain everything that has happened, there was so much. Trying to post enough info but not making a novel out of it is really difficult.