Etiquette School is in session! > "So kind of you to take an interest."

Miss Manners is right!

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RooRoo:
Make sure to read MMís answer to the first letter. Note the tone of voice MM recommends using.

I could not get the URL to become a link, because of the R-word, so you'll have to cut and paste.

http://www.stltoday.com/lifestyles/relationships-and-special-occasions/columns/miss-manners/soon-to-be-empty-nester-can-rely-on-her-friends/article_236786bb-01fb-519e-9d3e-e6147716b5c3.html

Failing to be warm and friendly when we use a polite phrase does not make us rude!
 :D

Bellantara:
Fixed link: http://tinyurl.com/lgxo9ld  Well done!

artk2002:
Good catch!

By implication, this addresses the myth that the purpose of etiquette is to make the other person comfortable. Miss Manners and other old-school mavens are well aware that that isn't the purpose of etiquette. Her cold "Fortunately, I have friends" is very deliberately intended to make the other person uncomfortable. Her "How kind of you to take an interest" in a very bored voice is another one.

EllenS:
An excellent example of letting people wallow in their own foolishness, without descending to rudeness yourself.

TootsNYC:

--- Quote from: artk2002 on July 27, 2013, 01:38:15 PM ---Good catch!

By implication, this addresses the myth that the purpose of etiquette is to make the other person comfortable. Miss Manners and other old-school mavens are well aware that that isn't the purpose of etiquette. Her cold "Fortunately, I have friends" is very deliberately intended to make the other person uncomfortable. Her "How kind of you to take an interest" in a very bored voice is another one.

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Because the implication is, "and you aren't one of them." (Hence the use of the third-person point of view.)

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