DF and I are a little over two weeks out from our very
small, family only, wedding. The RSVP date is tomorrow.
Right around the time that we were sending out invitations, DF and a close friend of mine ("Julie") were finally able to meet for the first time. Julie very much approved of DF (she was not a fan of my ex, with good reason), and was very happy for us. During the course of relaying all this to me she enthusiastically said, "I want to be invited to the wedding!", at which point I relayed that we were actually having an immediate-family-only event.
If we had been planning a friends wedding Julie would have been invited without a doubt, and likely would have been asked to be an attendant. As it was, I had toyed with the idea of asking Julie to officiate the wedding, as a workaround to our "family only" plan, but ultimately decided I was more comfortable having my brother perform that role. Knowing that I had really wanted Julie at our wedding, when we got home DF told me that if I wanted to invite Julie I should go ahead and do so, and so we did. [/end longgggg background]The Question
Yesterday Julie and I were texting/emailing/IMing, and she brought up the wedding. I asked if she thought she would be able to make it, since the last time we spoke she needed to see if she could get the time off work. I don't have an RSVP back from her, but I don't have one back from over half our guests, and with such a small guest list it isn't a big deal because I know almost everyone's plans personally. She responded that she was coming, and then asked if she could bring a plus one. I told her that sadly, I was going to have to say no, citing occupancy limits. (Which is true
, her attendance brings us to the maximum number of people allowed in our building, though even if space permitted we still would have said no due to the intimate nature of the event.) She stopped chatting after that.
I'm not particularly concerned about her bringing a plus-one anyhow, but at this point, now I don't know if she
is coming. And the invitation was not for a specific time, think "brunch", "high tea", "sunrise", or "dusk" type of wording, so if she is still coming, I'll need to let her know exactly what time we will be saying our vows. Should I come out and ask her if she'll still be coming? Just assume my answer didn't change her plans, and let her know the ceremony time? Some other option I'm not thinking of?
The whole situation just got fairly awkward. I never expected to have the "plus one" question come up at my less-than-20-guests wedding.