I wonder - when someone asks to visit, is it rude to put a time limitation on (ie, you need to be out of my house at x o'clock) because you need, as an adult, to have a nap?
I babysit several days a month. I also have a toddler of my own.
I try to make the days full and active, and so by the time post-lunch nap rolls around, I find I need to rest. Even if I don't sleep (which I find I usually do), I do need to sit down and read or do something to just relax. Being an introvert, having company between the hours of noon and 2pm does not work for me. Ever. Any day of the week. This is true whether I have just my own or both kids, but most especially true when I have both kids.
My mother decided she wanted to visit for a cup of tea after lunch yesterday. This was nice for her. It was awful for me. The visit was okay, but I was tired! LK woke up shortly after my mother arrived, meaning she only slept for 20 minutes (in other words, didn't really nap). She was grumpy for the rest of the day. I was grumpy because I was tired.
Mr K scheduled a delivery for today and the delivery was set for between 11am-2pm. AUUGH! I wanted to strangle him so badly! Once again, I didn't get to sit my butt down for as much as 30 minutes with a book and a cup of coffee.
A friend who lives out of town sent me a message saying that she's in town on Friday and could she visit. I said yes and asked her what time she'd be in, thinking late afternoon. Turns out she's taking the whole day off work, so late morning to early afternoon.
But I haven't seen her since Christmas and I do want to see her, but that is my ME TIME!
I need my me time. Really need it. I am an introvert and without that quiet me time mid-day, I find my stress levels go up and I am much less patient with the kids. I need it even more on Friday to recharge after caring for two active toddlers all day and then having a house full of company in the evening.
So how do I say this?
I can't use "I'm not well" all the time, and "I need a nap" comes across as a bit childish... or is it just my own insecurities thinking that?