A little over two years ago, my first grandchild (girl) was born. My friend offered to host the shower at her house, but I did all the work. (and had fun doing it!) I didn't want to go against etiquette, so when my friend offered her place, I took her up on it. It went fine.
My 2nd grandchild is due in November, and it's a boy! Yay, one of each!
My daughter has mentioned a 2nd shower, since it is a boy this time. I told her no go as you only get one. The shower is to set you up with items for a baby. Just because it is a boy this time, you don't get another.
She told me, "Things are different now. You can have a shower for each." I said no, one only. I did tell her if a friend wanted to throw one for her, I would attend as a guest only.
My thoughts are, swing and other items are girl colors, but the baby won't know. I've already started knitting boy things, and purchased some boy outfits.
Question is: Am I wrong to shut her down on her wishes?