I know there is a separate wedding forum, but it doesn't seem to get a ton of traffic so I hope it is OK to post here.
So, I just got engaged a couple of weeks ago ... could not be happier
We haven't started any real planning yet, but we thought what made the most sense would be to start with figuring out the guest list - then once we know the approximate number of people, it will be easier to narrow down location, food options, budget, etc.
We'd like to keep it as small as possible - family and close friends - and for size and other reasons, we'd prefer to keep it mostly an adult event. We do have one adorable nephew who would be invited and, presuming he's up for it, we'd like him to be the ring bearer. I'm pretty sure if we kept it to "family kids only," i.e. this one child, no one would be offended. We also have a little girl whom we adore who is the daughter of our close friends, and ideally we'd love to have her as the flower girl. And that would be it as far as kids go.
I'm a bit older (over 40, although this is my first wedding) so I have a fair number of friends who have children. Most of them had child-free or family-kid-only weddings, and they all live in our state, so I wouldn't be asking them to travel without their children. I don't think
any of them would be offended, but I wanted to get a reality check on the etiquette front as to whether having "bridal party only" as our rubric for children is acceptable. Thanks in advance for your input!