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Isilleke

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Text after 2 years
« on: August 05, 2013, 11:04:34 AM »
[BG.] I broke up with my ex about 2 years ago. It wasn't an amicable break up (showing up at my door, vile emails etc), which was completely out of the blue for me to be honest. He was really a good guy while we were dating, but I just didn't have any feelings anymore.

Today he's texted me really simple "yo, like to catch up?  :)". I don't know what the correct response is.
The way I see it is
1. not do anything, not acknowledge the text at all or
2. send the following text "I'd rather not, thank you".

Any advice??

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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #1 on: August 05, 2013, 11:05:40 AM »
I would ignore it. If he starts harassing you via text, block him.

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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #2 on: August 05, 2013, 11:12:52 AM »
If you wanted to catch up, I would respond. Since you don't, ignore.  Block if he persists.

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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #3 on: August 05, 2013, 11:33:24 AM »
I would respond, "Not really. But I hope you're well."

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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #4 on: August 05, 2013, 11:49:18 AM »
Since the breakup was far from amicable, I would not respond.

Had he acted like a reasonable adult during the breakup, I'd recommend a polite refusal. But the nasty emails and showing up at your door = no further contact, in my opinion.
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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #5 on: August 05, 2013, 11:55:58 AM »
I wouldn't reply either, but I wouldn't blame you for it if you really wanted to say "Um who is this?....Sorry bud, wrong number."

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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #6 on: August 05, 2013, 01:18:53 PM »
If you'd rather not, than doing #1 sends the same message as #2 without the added risk of opening the door for conversation. If you send #2, he may bug you or ask why not or maybe even reply with anger for the rejection.

IMHO, you would do better to keep the break clean given how things ended. You are under no obligation to reply to him.

If you want nothing more to do with him than you silence will speak for itself.
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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #7 on: August 05, 2013, 05:53:53 PM »
Ignore it.  Just be a black hole. 

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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #8 on: August 05, 2013, 08:05:37 PM »
I agree. Delete and forget.
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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #9 on: August 05, 2013, 08:21:10 PM »
Dont answer it. Even if you send a text saying you dont want to catch up, you still have reciprocated his communication. I agree with others who said just be a black hole.

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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #10 on: August 05, 2013, 09:58:23 PM »
I agree with everyone else.  I think no response is the best response.

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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #11 on: August 05, 2013, 10:21:58 PM »
Don't respond.  Any engagement he will see as you opening a dialogue with him.

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Re: Text after 2 years UPDATE #12
« Reply #12 on: August 06, 2013, 04:12:55 AM »
I've decided to not reply at all. That is what I wanted to do anyway, but I didn't know if it was rude or not. To be honest, I am curious why he decided to text me out of the blue and after 2 years, but it isn't worth it to me.

Thank you all!

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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #13 on: August 09, 2013, 02:42:02 PM »
"Yo" ?

Uh, no.


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Re: Text after 2 years
« Reply #14 on: August 21, 2013, 05:53:49 AM »
"Yo" ?

Uh, no.
i know! that's what i was thinking!

OP - you made the right decision

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