The situation has been resolved. But, now I'm second-guessing myself, and wondering if we were wrong.
We moved 7 months ago. We also homeschool our kiddos. DS7 and DD5 were placed in activities and have made a few friends. (Honestly, they make friends wherever they go!) We also started attending a mega-church 3 months ago.
DS7 joined a tee-ball team through mega-church in April. He did not know anyone on his team. When we went to a music class over the summer, he was excited to see a teammate (Friend) in the class. We have had a few play dates with Friend and his sister, and have really enjoyed this friendship (and mine with the mom).
The mom has attended mega-church for a number of years, and shared that the church likes to keep kiddos together, whether it is sports teams, Sunday school classes, small groups, etc. This is great, as it's a huge church (20,000+), so it's nice that the kiddos can see a familiar face when they experience something new.
Soccer started on Tuesday. I discovered that Friend and DS7 were on the same soccer team. (When I received the team lists, I never thought to look at the other names, because I didn't think we'd know anyone.) DS7 also discovered another teeball teammate on his soccer team. He was so excited to see some people he knew and didn't stop talking about it all night.
Yesterday afternoon, I get a phone call. Apparently, they put DS7 on the wrong team and he will be moved to the correct team. It was just a typo. Thank you for understanding.
DH and I discussed, and ended up asking the recreation manager to keep DS7 on his current team. We explained that we recently moved, and DS7 was excited to know some people on his team. Rec manager replied that uniforms were ordered already and as good parents, we should encourage our child to make friends wherever he goes. DH responded, saying we would gladly pay for the extra fees to get one extra uniform, but, we really would prefer that DS7 stays on the current team. Rec manager said he could stay on the team.
Now, normally, I wouldn't have minded switching teams at all. Like I said, I didn't even look at the other names, because I didn't think we'd know anyone. DS7 joined 2 ice hockey teams, teeball, VBS, and even a summer soccer camp, not knowing anyone, and did make some friends rather quickly.
However, he was just so excited to be with these boys again. I can understand a typo, and trying to correct it, but really have a difficult time understanding what the big issue was. And then to comment about encouraging our child to make friends wherever he goes, that upset me a whole lot, especially from a religious organization, and even more so from the man who shared his testimony during devotions at the soccer camp. That email response was very contradictory to his testimony.
I don't think that the teammates or coaches will treat DS7 any differently. But, as I've never been in a situation like this before (we really are more of a go-with-the-flow family), now I'm second-guessing us pushing to keep DS7 on the current team. I certainly don't want to be one of "those parents", but I'm afraid the condescending email upset and offended me and maybe I let my anger lead my thinking.