I've just come back from a group tour style holiday and one of the guys thinks we had a connection, but we really really didn't. However he is very sweet and I don't want to appear mean, but I need him to get the message.
It started because I decided to escape the group on the second evening and take a walk outside the hotel. He was sitting in reception and asked if he could come too. I said yes, because, well, saying no would seem rude. I hadn't really spoken much to him before but he seemed pleasant, if a little shy and a bit awkward. So we took a walk, it was sunset, and it quickly became obvious he thought we were having a 'moment'. I started to gabble on about anything and everything just so that he couldn't say or do anything. He seemed to be wanting to make a move.
Over the rest of the trip he somehow managed to always be on my table at dinner, to sit next to me or near me on the coach and my roommate for the trip pointed out he definitely had a thing for me. After 3 days he'd requested we were friends on facebook but I ignored it because I didn't want to encourage him. I was pleasant, I was friendly over dinner, but I never went beyond that and I spoke to everybody, we didn't have many one on one or certainly not in-depth conversations.
When we arrived back in the UK we all collected our bags from the baggage claim and said our goodbyes and a few of us who had got on really well exchanged facebook details and email etc. I relented on adding him, as I was adding so many people I thought it would be fine. As I went to leave the baggage hall to get my train, he insisted on giving me a massive hug. No problem, it's just a hug, but then I turned and left.
Walking through the airport to get to the trains I heard someone running behind me and it was this guy. I said I thought he was going to get his coach but he said he would walk me to the train. I kept walking and said I really didn't want him to miss his coach and I was fine on my own (hint hint) but he kept pace with me. At this point he told me "I'm so glad to have met you, you're such a special person, I think you're an amazing girl and you're beautiful and confident. I'd love to see more of you". I was taken a back (and honestly doubt the sanity of anyone who is this keen on someone they barely know!) and just said thanks, it was nice to meet you, but really, you should go and catch your bus. He kept pace with me and I was almost at the elevator down to the train platform when he started to say it all again, calling me amazing and special etc etc. I was pushing the elevator button and just as the doors opened he lunged forward and I ducked to the side into the elevator, saying I really had to go! He then stood and waved and pulled a pouty sad face (like a sad child) it was so odd!
Yesterday he commented on loads of my photos on FB and this morning he's emailed me saying he wants to take me for dinner and get to know me better, again because I am, apparently, special and amazing. He lives about 20 miles from me.
The thing is, he is a very sweet guy and was really nice and gentle with everyone on the trip. There was nothing really to dislike. But if you duck one someone moves into kiss you, it's not a good sign!!! He is just so much like an eager puppy it was not attractive to me at all, he was more like a nerdy little brother you'd probably end up looking after. But no one wants to kick a puppy!
Anyone know a polite way of saying I'm not interested? He came on so strong with no signals from me I worry I'll have to be really blunt for him to get the message.