I have been friends with "Jenny" for about 3 years. Jenny has a group of girl friends from College who she is still very close with. When she has them over to her house she always invites me and if she hosts events where partners/husbands/etc. are invited she always invites me and my boyfriend as well. They are a great group of people and I have a great time with them all - except Melissa and Mike.
It seems to me that Melissa and Mike are a bit snobby and just don't like "outsiders" in their group. They make zero effort to say Hello when someone new (i.e. someone not an original member of their "college friends") walks in the room, they don't engage in conversation when someone "new" is talking and if they are asked a question by someone they don't seem to "want" to speak to they answer with one word answers, or not at all, etc.
Melissa and Mike are NOT shy. They just seem to pick and choose who they want to engage with and have no issues with being completely unfriendly and just straight up RUDE.
I've made an effort to be nice to Melissa and Mike and so has my boyfriend. Others have said the same thing about them being totally unfriendly, rude. Sometimes, in an effort to be polite and friendly towards them, I end up looking stupid.
Example: They were talking about how they were in the process of buying a new car. We were all sitting in a group and they were talking openly about it. When they mentioned they were not sure what type of car they wanted I said "I really love my 'Popular Car Brand and Model'. It's never given me issues and it is fun to drive". Melissa made a "why are you speaking" type face and completely ignored me. There was an awkward silence and I felt like an idiot.
Example 2: I was sitting in the empty living room, fixing my shoe lace, when Melissa and Mike arrived through the front door on the other side of the living room. I looked up at them, smiled, and they acted like I was not there, walked right past me, and out the back door to the people outside.
Jenny does not seem to notice this and Melissa and Mike are super nice to her and people they feel like being nice to.
Since besides them everyone else within this social circle is great I don't plan to stop hanging out with them and unfortunately for me I see them pretty regularly. Everyone seems to like me and is always to happy to see and meet new people so I don't think Melissa and Mike's behavior has anything to do with me personally. I should also ad that Melissa and Mike do not ruin these social situations for me, it's usually a larger group when I do see them.
My question is - since Melissa and Mike will never change, and engaging them is awkward and embarassing, how the heck do I act around them?? I don't want to return rudeness with rudeness but I also don't feel like being ignored and made to look foolish when my "Hello, how are you" is met with silence and a nasty look. Do I ignore them right back? Help!