Long time lurker, first time poster, you know the drill.
A little background:
I have been involved with a group at my church for about five years. We do things like provide food for those who are ill, visit homebound members, and so on. I love doing it, and it means a lot to those involved.
The group is unofficially divided into two camps: Those Who Work, and Those Who Do Not. Those who don't work are either retired and haven't worked in years, or have never worked. There have occasionally been flare-ups between the two groups - such as, "No, I can't make a delivery to the food bank that is only open during business hours Monday-Friday - but for the most part, we are able to divide labor and keep things equal.
Except in one regard.
When someone in the church dies, the family members are offered a memorial service courtesy of our group. If they accept this, we will provide very light refreshments - cookies, brownies, lemonade, coffee - and we will serve. As most receptions are during the week, those of us who work - including me - are generally not able to attend. However, we are happy to provide food.
Some time back, a disagreement erupted about what food was considered "acceptable." Those in the "not working" category felt that all food provided should be homemade. Those of us on the "working" side argued that we didn't always have time to bake something, especially if the situation is such that we only have a few days notice. I had one woman snap at me that SHE was always able to have home-baked goods when SHE worked, and how dare I not have the time? A compromise was finally reached that store bought goods were "acceptable", as long as they were of the "higher quality."
The past several services, I have not been able to attend, but I have contributed cookies and other baked goods. Every single time, without fail, I am told afterward, "Oh, we didn't use what you brought, so we left it in the kitchen to be used for Fellowship Hour on Sunday."
Maybe this is petty of me - and if it is, please tell me - but I didn't bring the food to be used for Fellowship Hour. I brought it to be used for the service. It wouldn't bother me as much if it wasn't the fact that this happens on a regular basis to those of us who bring store-bought goods. One member of the group has refused to bring food anymore, citing the fact that he is tired of feeling like his contributions aren't "good enough."
Is there a polite way I can say "If you don't use the food for the service, please let me know so I can get it back?"
Again, if I am being petty here, please let me know. It just annoys me!