This has just come up today and I'm sitting here with my knickers all in a twist over it.
DH and I made plans with some friends of ours to go out tonight (let's call them Matt and Kate). We told them they could pick the restaurant, they chose a place 20 miles away (described as Matt's "favorite place") and we agreed we would meet there at six.
I planned the stuff I have to do today around this arranged meeting time (and the time it will take in traffic to get there). I actually have time to write this now since the plans have been effectively canceled. Here's what happened:
-Last night, agreed to meet at six
-Today, Matt texts DH and says they want to meet at five
-I told DH no, the stuff I have to do today will not allow this
-Matt tells DH it doesn't matter what time we show up, as they are planning on going to the restaurant at 4pm for a beer tasting anyway
Now, we have been out with them a few times before but mostly we have them over to our house. This is because Matt and Kate really like to get their drink on, in their terms. We are all in our early 30s but DH and I, while we enjoy some cocktails/beers, are really not into drinking ourselves silly. We did plenty of that in college and are more or less over it.
I told DH that now I'm really annoyed because I know what will happen - we can either show up at five (which leaves me no time, and I'll be annoyed), and they will already be mildly drunk. We can show up at six, which gives me the time I need, but they will both be wasted and they will have zero interest in having dinner with us, just marinating their livers.
I told DH that I didn't find either option really appealing and I felt like the original plan - to meet out at six and have dinner - was really not intact. As such, I don't feel bad just taking a pass on tonight and offering to have them over next Saturday. DH feels like we are "canceling plans."
To be clear, I know it's not my call what they do before we meet out, but had I known the plan was to taste beer for 1-2 hours before meeting us, I would have never made the plans to begin with.
What do you guys think?