Yesterday I had a very enjoyable meal with the DDs and DD#2's BFbob's family. (Family includes DD#1's exBF#1, the sister who is 10, and BFbob's mom (Linda) . . . I've posted about them before.)
I automatically assumed that I would be paying for the meal since the DDs invited BFbob and family (long story short, it was a last-minute invite.) Absolutely no problem on my end, I had no worries about hosting this event.
For the most part, everybody agreed that a nice assortment of appetizers would suit the palate.
Earlier I heard exBF#1 mention that he was soooo hungry (he just got off of an airplane after a week-long brutal training session) so I told him it would be okay for him to order a meal instead of just apps. He thanked me profusely. Sis didn't care for any of the appetizers that we were ordering so I told her to go ahead and order a sandwich or hamburger or something . . . These meals were about $10+ each.
We ordered 8 appetizers to split amongst everybody . . . apps being $7-10+ each, but! Lucky us! It was late afternoon so apps were 1/2 off.
Then the drinks . . . the adults had a couple of beers @ $5.00/each.
Side Question -- when you're hosting a restaurant meal, do you keep a running approximate total in your head? I do. I'm certainly not keeping track of "this person's meal was more expensive than that person's meal" type of thing, nor am I censoring the price of what is ordered and suggesting something else from the menu that is cheaper. I just don't want to be completely surprised when the bill comes. Am I rude for doing this? /end Side Question.
Anywhoo -- at the end of the meal, I asked if anybody wanted dessert. Sis gave a vigorous nod. I asked her what she would like, and her mom told her to stop. I didn't say anything, because, you know, Mom rules . . . Mom said no.
Suddenly a margarita shows up in front of me, and I hear a group of people behind me, then a plate of dessert with candles appear and everybody (wait staff included) sings Happy Birthday to me.
THEN! When the bill came, DD#2 grabbed the check and paid for the meal.
Had I known that I was not paying for the meal, I would not have insisted that others go for a pricier full meal nor would I have ordered the highest priced app., which was one that was not on the 1/2 priced menu (crab legs, which were awesome.) So I'm feeling a bit guilty about this.
After all was said and done, DDs and I were sitting down chatting and DD#1 asked DD#2 "How much do I owe you?" DD#2 said "the bill was $X amount." At this point, I put my hands to my ears and said "Please don't talk about the price of a gift in front of the giftee." I left the room so that they could discuss. I'm not sure if I handled that well . . . what would you have done?
PLUS! Since I had already heard the total
, the price that DD#2 mentioned was way higher than what I had figured in my head . . . Doing the math, figuring in a 20% tip, unless DD#2 tipped extremely
well, the restaurant charged full price for the apps instead of the 1/2 price advertised special . . . I probably shouldn't have done the math at this point, but I couldn't help myself . . . Would you have done the math or just let it go?
I understand that it's too late to go back to the restaurant and question the bill.
Since it turned out that I was the Guest of Honor instead of the host and the DDs are complete novice's concerning restaurant hosting, is there a gentle, but polite way to say "Thank you for the party, but I think that you were screwed on the bill?"
Or should I just keep my mouth shut?