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Re: What does Cut Direct mean?
« Reply #15 on: August 19, 2013, 07:05:39 PM »
According to coworker, I was only hired because of my sexual skills.

Dang.  That would be cut direct-worthy.  I agree with you.


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Re: What does Cut Direct mean?
« Reply #16 on: August 19, 2013, 07:36:30 PM »
The direct cut can lead to awful public confrontations. Dad and AUnt had a first cousin. They never liked him. The only fight Dad got in as a kid was with him. He moved away before I was born. When I was 10 or so he moved back. We saw him one time. He insulted my mother implying she married Dad for a green card. (Mom was a scientist part of a group Baylor College of Medicine moved heaven and earth to get to come down from McGill). Dad said he hadn't seen the jerk for 15 years - he never needed to see him again.

I was never witnessed to what happened next but apparently he confronted several of the adults (Dad, Aunt, Uncle, their grown daughters) in public trying to get them to talk to him. They just walked away. But at least once security was called to remove him.

A milder version is limited contact. A couple of Dad's first cousins had troubles with addiction. Members of the extended family refused to be around them if they were using. They would be put into cabs from events we hosted. If members of their immediate family allowed them to be drunk or high at events - we left. Us kids were forbidden to EVER get in a vehicle they were driving no matter what their condition. Honestly they never seemed upset by the rules. They unfortunately both died from their addictions.
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Re: What does Cut Direct mean?
« Reply #17 on: August 19, 2013, 08:05:46 PM »
If it becomes impossible to pretend that you do not see the person (for example, they run up to you and attempt to grab you in a bear hug), that is when you use:  "I do not know you!" as if they were a stranger trying to cop a feel.

It is the nuclear weapon of etiquette in that there is no acceptable fiction to cover it: Oh, she didn't see me; or She's been busy with work and that is why she doesn't return my calls.

The person is dead to you.  (Cue ominous music)

I have done it exactly once, and it was when a coworker complained to the brand new head of the department about the entire staff.  According to coworker, I was only hired because of my sexual skills.  I know because brand new head wanted me to present my credentials as if I were a new hire.

That coworker then tried to act as if we were pals, but I got a different job shortly thereafter, and gave him the cut direct the next time I ran into him.

Curious as to how you know she made the remark about your sexual skills.  (I don’t think being asked by dept. head to show your credentials in and of itself proves someone made such a statement.)

Direct cuts to co-workers can present a problem because there can be situations where communication is mandatory.  Also, others at the worksite can grow tired of the tension/hostile atmosphere.  I’ve had a situation where I limited interaction with a co-worker to mandatory business communication, but refusing to communicate at all would not be acceptable.
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Re: What does Cut Direct mean?
« Reply #18 on: August 19, 2013, 09:00:56 PM »
The cut direct is for social situations - at work, the modification is that you ONLY interact with them as required by business.  You are icily correct and professional. 

No idle chit chat and not one extra moment after the required work has been done.  You have something else that needs doing right then, you take your leave as soon as they indicate that there is nothing else required at that moment.

Knew someone who got fired - ran into them in the cafeteria a few months later (open to the public as there were no other places serving food for a couple of miles - mostly a residential area around the few business campuses).  I left the cafeteria's vending machine area quickly and went to the security desk (inside the secured area) to point out that he was in the building, that he had been fired for cause & escorted from the other building across the street several months ago, and he appeared to be in the company of a current employee who might "card" him into the secured areas (privacy act information and proprietary computer programs - not a military installation) - if the young woman wasn't aware that he had been previously employeed & fired... 

I wouldn't have trusted him to tell me...well, anything.  Not even that he was a dirty minded pervert with a filthy mouth and had no respect for women....I could see that for myself!


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Re: What does Cut Direct mean?
« Reply #19 on: August 20, 2013, 10:24:26 AM »
If it becomes impossible to pretend that you do not see the person (for example, they run up to you and attempt to grab you in a bear hug), that is when you use:  "I do not know you!" as if they were a stranger trying to cop a feel.

It is the nuclear weapon of etiquette in that there is no acceptable fiction to cover it: Oh, she didn't see me; or She's been busy with work and that is why she doesn't return my calls.

The person is dead to you.  (Cue ominous music)

I have done it exactly once, and it was when a coworker complained to the brand new head of the department about the entire staff.  According to coworker, I was only hired because of my sexual skills.  I know because brand new head wanted me to present my credentials as if I were a new hire.

That coworker then tried to act as if we were pals, but I got a different job shortly thereafter, and gave him the cut direct the next time I ran into him.

Curious as to how you know she made the remark about your sexual skills.  (I donít think being asked by dept. head to show your credentials in and of itself proves someone made such a statement.)

Direct cuts to co-workers can present a problem because there can be situations where communication is mandatory.  Also, others at the worksite can grow tired of the tension/hostile atmosphere.  Iíve had a situation where I limited interaction with a co-worker to mandatory business communication, but refusing to communicate at all would not be acceptable.

Because when I was questioned as to why I had to show my credentials after having worked there for three years, the director was indiscreet enough to tell me exactly why. 

The coworker was not the reason I left for another job.  I had been aggressively searching for another job for awhile (the supervisor's flapping gums were pertinent here), but I was so glad to get a job offer.
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Re: What does Cut Direct mean?
« Reply #20 on: August 20, 2013, 02:20:45 PM »
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the director was indiscreet enough to tell me exactly why. 

OP - wow.  (gulp)
Thanks for answering my question.