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Re: "Stealing" a Baby Name
« Reply #75 on: April 01, 2014, 12:48:28 PM »
I didn't read all the replies, but I agree that your friend is being crazy in thinking that she owns a name. I am sad that she is getting upset, because this could have been a cute name story. "My mom's best friend's daughter is also named Charlotte. It wasn't planned that way, they just both liked the name, but it's a fun connection!"

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Re: "Stealing" a Baby Name
« Reply #76 on: April 01, 2014, 01:14:42 PM »
Stealing something usually means that the person who originally had it no longer has it or the use of it...

The name is still out there and can be used - although I can see why first cousins the same age with the same name in the same town MIGHT be confusing - it's happened before in families, I'm sure (there have been several stories about that situation in this very thread).

Non-relatives who have mother who were friends growing up but now live a continent or half a continent away?  Not really an issue.  Besides, when the baby is born, it might be a boy named Charles instead of Charlotte.  It might be a girl who looks much more like an Emma than a Charlotte.
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Re: "Stealing" a Baby Name
« Reply #77 on: April 01, 2014, 02:18:06 PM »
A friend just reminded me of a story.  My friend's mentor's wife (Leah) was killed in a tragic accident - it was horrible - she had kids who were in their late teens, early 20's and then a child as young as only a few months old.  My friend was pregnant at the time, and the name they'd picked out (before the accident) for a girl was Leah.  When their daughter was born, they realized that many people would assume they were naming their daughter after Leah, and they realized it would be very important to her children to be the ones to first name their children after their beloved mother.  So, they picked a different name.  No one asked them to not name their daughter Leah, no one suggested it would be a bad idea, but they didn't even want to potentially hint at causing Leah's family any pain.


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Re: "Stealing" a Baby Name
« Reply #78 on: April 07, 2014, 07:55:25 PM »
I love the names Angharad, Bronwyn, and Aisling.  Maybe I'll use them for the next cats who show up here.  I wonder how many women named Lara [from Dr. Zhivago] and Demelza [from Poldark] are out there.

<--- That's my Aisling.  :)

I was almost named Lara, but my parents changed their minds at the last minute and I got stuck with Jennifer.  :-\

Pertaining to this thread - OP's friend needs to get over herself.  OP mentioned the name first, and they don't even live in the same part of the country.

POD. Friend is being absurd.
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Re: "Stealing" a Baby Name
« Reply #79 on: April 07, 2014, 10:19:51 PM »

...either get over it or die mad.
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Re: "Stealing" a Baby Name
« Reply #80 on: April 13, 2014, 02:56:42 PM »
If she was pregnant with a baby girl I might feel differently but in this case you are good. You mentioned the name to her and she may never have a child or a girl.

My uncle tried to pull this with my mother. She wanted to name my brother after her father but uncle said she couldn't because if he had a boy he was planning on using the name. He wasn't married at the time (and wouldn't be for another 10 years) and never had any children. Glad my mother didn't listen.

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Re: "Stealing" a Baby Name
« Reply #81 on: April 13, 2014, 03:36:44 PM »
Never mind that 7,418 new baby girls were named Charlotte in the US in 2012 alone http://www.ssa.gov/cgi-bin/popularnames.cgi.  If she's going to be mad at you, she has a lot of other parents to be mad at.   ;)

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Re: "Stealing" a Baby Name
« Reply #82 on: April 13, 2014, 09:45:51 PM »
If she was pregnant with a baby girl I might feel differently but in this case you are good. You mentioned the name to her and she may never have a child or a girl.

My uncle tried to pull this with my mother. She wanted to name my brother after her father but uncle said she couldn't because if he had a boy he was planning on using the name. He wasn't married at the time (and wouldn't be for another 10 years) and never had any children. Glad my mother didn't listen.

I have five cousins named "Walter," after my grandfather. The only reason I don't have a brother named Walter is that my parents felt that Dad's oldest brother should be the first to be able to name a son Walter. Dad's other siblings didn't feel the same way, so there were 4 Walters before the eldest brother finally, after 5 girls, had a son. I do have a brother with Walter as his middle name.

We have large family get-togethers. Between the cousins and their children and one in-law, there are 9 men named Walter. We don't have any trouble telling them apart. There's Walt the 3rd, Evil Walt, Slimy Walt, Crazy Walt and Sam (he chose to go by his middle name).
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