I belong to a social club of about 25 members and we have various activities. All of the event invitations are issued via evite and one person is in charge of sending these out.
Once a month, we meet for dinner at a different restaurant. Usually about 10 people attend these. Some months are more well-attended than others.
Last week, we were also going to have an ornament exchange at our dinner, and so those of us who planned to attend had to purchase and wrap an ornament to bring along.
I had RSVPed yes early on. Several days before the dinner, I saw that there were going to be about 5 people in attendance.
An hour before the dinner, I was dressed in my festive attire and had my wrapped ornament. I don't have a smart phone so I don't usually check the internet right before I'm supposed to attend something, but because I was on my computer anyway, I looked at the evite to see who was coming.
I saw that just a few minutes before, someone had changed their yes RSVP to no. And that apparently two days before, others had also changed their RSVPs to no.
That left me as the only person planning to attend.
Obviously, I wasn't going to go to the restaurant by myself, sit alone and exchange the ornament by myself. So I posted a note on the evite that I would no longer go either, just in case someone decided to change their mind. There were no maybes.
In the past, when I've been the second to last person to consider changing my evite RSVP to "no," I've contacted the remaining "yes" person to make sure that they knew we were the only two and to see if they wanted to cancel. I think this is more courteous than just deciding not to go, changing my evite RSVP and not caring about the lone attendee.
I am not saying the person who canceled just before me (let's call her LastMinuteNo) should still have planned to go because of me. If she didn't want to go, she should have RSVPed "no" as she did. But I think she should have called or emailed me to tell me that. We're friends, I've babysat her child, she knows me well. I didn't appreciate that she didn't give it a second thought.
Do all of you check evites right before you leave to attend an event to make sure that you're not the only one still going? Don't any of you contact the last person to tell them that you plan to cancel?