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What do you do if someone asks if you've deleted their husband on FB?

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Micah:
I'm FB friends with my half sister. We don't really have a relationship, apart from 'liking' each others posts and the occasional, casual comment. I haven't seen her in person for over fifteen years.

Early in the year, her husband sent me a friend request. I accepted it and proceeded to have my wall bombarded with a flood of misogynistic and crude jokes and pictures. I don't might a dirty joke, but he went above and beyond social acceptability. He never once directly posted something to me, not even to say, "hello." It was all recycled stuff from those 'funny status' sites. So I deleted him.....

That was months ago. A few minutes ago, my sister put on my wall (not in a PM) "MY NAME, did you delete HUSBAND's NAME?"

What do I do? I don't want to hurt her feelings or offend her. But the truth is, yes I did, because he's the same unpleasant, crude person I remember from my child hood. I hate conflict, even on FB! And I wish she'd messaged me rather than putting it up on my wall!

menley:
I would delete her message from the wall, then send her a private message or e-mail. In the message, I would simply say that you would prefer that she keep such personal questions or conversations to private message or e-mail.


I'm not clear if your sister's husband posted his crude jokes and things to your wall or just in general, and thus showing up on your feed. If it was directly on your wall, then I would tell your sister that he continually posted items that were inappropriate and crude on your page and so yes, you did unfriend him.

Micah:

--- Quote from: menley on August 23, 2013, 08:29:47 AM ---I would delete her message from the wall, then send her a private message or e-mail. In the message, I would simply say that you would prefer that she keep such personal questions or conversations to private message or e-mail.


I'm not clear if your sister's husband posted his crude jokes and things to your wall or just in general, and thus showing up on your feed. If it was directly on your wall, then I would tell your sister that he continually posted items that were inappropriate and crude on your page and so yes, you did unfriend him.

--- End quote ---

It was just in general. I was never tagged in any of them. In hindsight I should have just hidden his posts, but he annoyed me, lol

SCMagnolia:
I, too, would delete her post and send her a PM letting her know that you did indeed unfriend him.  You don't really have to say why, but if she presses, you can let her know that the content of his posts is something you would prefer not to see on your newsfeed.

If she gives you grief, de-friend her, too.  Your page, your rules.

Goosey:
I would do as the other say - delete the post off the wall and PM her. But, if asked again, I would have no problem saying why. Just say that your sense of humor doesn't align with his.

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