To give a bit of background, I thoroughly dislike my brother in law, Bill. That may be colouring my response to what might actually be a perfectly fine response on his part. I don't want to be pushy, but I'm annoyed with him.
Mr K and I are planning a little birthday party for Little Knit (I cannot believe she is almost 2). We're putting together little treat bags for each of the kids. Because there's a really small and reasonable number of kids, we're doing little personalized gift bags for each kid. Each bag will contain a small book, toy, and food treat. Each bag will be appropriate to the preferences of the kids.
Now, Bill and his wife (Happy) are pretty strict with their kids sugar and treat intake. Keeping this in mind, I sent Bill and Happy an email asking what I could put in the kids bags. I explained that we're doing individual treat bags with a toy, book, and a piece of candy or food treat that each kid would like. "I was wondering if you could give me some ideas for what kinds of food treats each of your kids would be able to eat."
I would have thought the line "would be able to eat" would have been fairly self-explanatory that I'm not looking to give the kids random candy, but want to put something in there that they can eat. Something that is in keeping with their healthy lifestyle. Something that's not necessarily candy or sugar.
I got back a response that the kids don't get food treats. That's it. The kids don't get treats.
First of all, that's patently untrue! They had birthday cake and homemade popsicles when we went over for Younger Nephew's birthday a few short weeks ago. Birthday cake with icing. And sugar. A sugary treat if you will.
I am thinking of replying, but don't want to be confrontational or pushy.
What I am thinking of saying is:
"Hi Bill and Happy,
Mr K and I completely respect that you prefer to really keep the kids away from sugary treats and candy. I was actually hoping for some direction on something they can enjoy. We're trying to keep the goodie bags small and personalized, so is there even some special piece of fruit or non-sugary treat that each of them would enjoy?
Of course, if you really prefer no treat at all, we will respect that.