Author Topic: They didn't stay very long... UPDATE #12  (Read 5026 times)

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TootsNYC

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Re: They didn't stay very long...
« Reply #15 on: September 21, 2013, 09:13:00 PM »
I would ask her "Mom, I've noticed you seem to be very uncomfortable visiting my home. Yesterday was the first time you actually got out of the car and you still only stayed about 30 minutes. Is there anything I can do to make your visits more enjoyable? I'd love to have you over for an afternoon some day."  :-\

I think this is great.  Sometimes, there is no point in speculating about seemingly confusing behavior when you can just ask and save the trouble of worrying about it - I couldn't see anything wrong with what you did during the interaction.

I agree--I think this is a great approach.

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Re: They didn't stay very long... UPDATE #12
« Reply #16 on: September 26, 2013, 05:53:18 PM »
On one hand, it's the longest visit every, on the other hand, 30 min given all that's going on seems a short visit.  I think knowing some of the history would make it easier to offer advice, since there must be something else given the lack of prior visits and the issue on your birthday.  In general, I think JenJay offered very good advice.