I think the fact that they are homebuilders may have something to do with her talk. My DH worked for a high-end homebuilder after college and we know a few socially. All of them have showplaces for homes and are used to showing off their properties because it's part of doing business. I guess that's why I don't consider her pointing out the homes amenities and decorating to be that unusual.
She did more than point out amenities and decorations. From Yvaine's comprehensive post at 9:27 this morning:
Quote from: Shoo on Today at 09:23:30 AM
Quote from: White Lotus on Today at 09:18:23 AM
Twik, I disagree. It is never polite to brag about money or the cost of things. It is nice to share ones's nice things, but not to boast about how much one paid for them. That is very nouveau -- riche as well as rude, and snobbish into the bargain. I doubt if it is being done with malice, but the employer's talk about what she spent on this or that and that the garage calling is the Mercedes dealer -- it is rude. Old money/classy money (even if new) tends to buy well and buy lasting, and not talk about how much it costs! If this woman is the climber she sounds like, she would climb higher if she listened to the way those she would like to associate with discuss money -- which is not -- outside of a business context.
The OP doesn't state that the woman mentioned the cost of anything. She pointed out the amenities on the farm, talked about all the farm's features, etc. but the OP never says she talked about how much any of it cost.
Quote from: SCMagnolia on Yesterday at 09:03:12 AM
What did not sit well with me and a few other co-workers was the attitude of “look what we have” that seemed to be underlying all the day’s activities. Owner Lady told quite a few people of all the work they did on the house, how expensive it was to upgrade the house to the way she wanted it, and how she has professional decorators come in every season to decorate for holidays and such. One of the day’s events was a hayride that should have been fun, but seemed more like a guided tour of the entire property, complete with stops here and there to show us where they plan to build another horse stable (“so we can buy more horses”) and a shooting range to use at next year’s picnic. It was pointed out on several different stops where the property extends to and how they hold several of these kind of parties throughout the year.
Quote from: SCMagnolia on Yesterday at 10:43:01 AM
I kind of figured there's no getting around this for next year. I'm hoping they'll take the approach that Lowspark mentioned and think that since everyone saw the place this year, they won't feel compelled to show everything off again. Either that, or maybe one of us will develop some mental telepathy skills! We were all doing okay until Owner Lady was talking about the professional decorators and the hayride of how much they spent.
Owner Guy isn't so much the problem. He's pretty down to earth. He's usually on a jobsite and you normally can't tell him from the average worker. Half the time, the people that contract with us don't know he's the owner or don't believe it. Owner Lady is the issue. She likes to name-drop wherever she can. If her car is in the shop, she won't tell the receptionist to let her know if the garage calls about her car - it's "let me know when the Mercedes dealer calls." Like none of us know she drives a Mercedes. We're in a rural area and the winters can be rough, so her husband bought her a 4WD something or other that is NOT a Mercedes. She was in a snit for days over it because it "looks like every other car in a parking lot." I think for Owner Guy, it was a "let's have everyone over and throw a party" deal and for her it was a "what a great opportunity to brag about my stuff" deal.