From SCMagnolia's first post:
What did not sit well with me and a few other co-workers was the attitude of “look what we have” that seemed to be underlying all the day’s activities. Owner Lady told quite a few people of all the work they did on the house, how expensive it was to upgrade the house to the way she wanted it, and how she has professional decorators come in every season to decorate for holidays and such. One of the day’s events was a hayride that should have been fun, but seemed more like a guided tour of the entire property, complete with stops here and there to show us where they plan to build another horse stable (“so we can buy more horses”) and a shooting range to use at next year’s picnic. It was pointed out on several different stops where the property extends to and how they hold several of these kind of parties throughout the year.
Thanks, but I read the same post that you did. SCMagnolia and others are assuming
bad intent, but I was pointing out that that wasn't necessarily so. Had the woman said "... and it's really too bad you can't afford this too...", I would absolutely agree that she had bad intent, but that's not what's been reported. It's simply possible that the wife spends her time with people for whom $50,000 shooting ranges aren't
a topic for resentment, any more than my acquaintance thought that a $5000/week vacation rental was a subject for resentment. Or that a $5 blouse from the thrift store is a subject for resentment. But I'm sure that there's someone out there who would regard that $5 blouse as bragging.
It's a matter of context and I'm far more likely to attribute cluelessness to the wife than any real intent to put people down.
I guess that other people having more money and nicer things than me doesn't bother me. It doesn't even bother me that they may talk about it. I'm not going to take my insecurities and use them to attribute bad motivations to others. I realized early on that there will always be someone who is stronger, better looking, smarter or richer than me.