Door slamming neighbor
I have a good friend who sold her house a few months ago, downsized, and moved into an apartment. Friend is late 50s and retired.
When she told me about her apt, she described it as a 4 unit building on a quiet street. She said she’s seen a couple neighbors at the dumpster and when leaving/entering the building but there haven't been any introductions or small talk – just “hello” – which is fine.
There is a common foyer area. Friend said the young lady (described as 30ish) who lives in the unit directly across from hers doesn’t appear to be very friendly…….just kind of grunted when friend said hello. But the main issue is that this young woman SLAMS her apt door very loudly when she leaves early in the morning, when she comes home around noon, and whenever she comes home. It’s become a regular occurrence and seems to be deliberate. The slamming noise echoes and friend says it has woken her up several times.
The owner told friend that her unit was empty/vacant for about 4 months (renovations, etc.) before she moved in. Perhaps the young lady got used to having the (upper) floor to herself, maybe she doesn’t care about bothering others….who knows.
I was visiting friend for the first time recently, and I was truly shocked at how loud the door slamming is. Neighbor came home while I was in friend's apt, then left again about a half hr later, slamming her door loudly both times.
Friend said she doesn’t want to complain to landlord, but is considering leaving a polite note. I think this would be a mistake, but I wasn’t sure what to advise her. An actual face-to-face, “Hey neighbor, could you please not slam your door so loudly?” may or may not solve the problem. Friend is kind of soft-spoken, demure, and doesn’t like confrontation.
(My Evil twin
said she should slam her door twice after each occurrence until it stops, or get up at 3AM and slam the heck out of her own door.....j/k
Seriously, what would you advise?