Several of you mentioned no visitation.
A month ago, I would have said that the visitation would be unimportant to me. My mother died 3 weeks ago.
The visitation was, far more than the funeral, important in helping me come to a sense of closure. I was there with Mom on the morning of the day she died, but had returned home when I got the call from my family. I didn't realize how very important it was for me to have 2 hours to walk around in the room, to receive condolences, to stand at the photo display and tell people about the photos...occasionally walking by the coffin. Mom looked fantastic; I think the reason was that she was dressed and arranged by people who'd known her in life. She'd always said she would come back to haunt us if we let someone paint up her face like so many elderly women are rouged up. If anything, she needed more lipstick- Mom never went anywhere without putting on fresh lipstick. Her hair was styled by her former stylist, exactly as she'd always worn it. I kept working myself up to it...I KNEW that I had to touch her to say goodbye. Somehow, I knew that I had to do that, or I'd always regret it. So as we were leaving, I went back and did what I'd done every night as she was dying all summer- I held her hand, and kissed her forehead, and told her good night.
The next day at the funeral, the casket was closed when they brought us into the church. First time I've been to a funeral where the family didn't go up to the casket before it was closed. If we hadn't had the visitation, I would not have had that opportunity to say goodbye in a way that I feel was absolutely essential for me- but in a way that even a month ago I would have said would have been unimportant.
So, I guess what I'm saying is keep in mind, while pre-planning funerals, that things that seem unimportant in advance may turn out to be crucial at the time, and allow yourselves the option of making those last-minute changes.