I suspect most of us have heard that phrase. But I sometimes find that people use it to weasel out of being accountable and taking responsibility, or they don’t want to talk about something that makes them uncomfortable......or make them look and feel guilty.
Technically, if something happened yesterday, or even 5 minutes ago, it was “in the past”. But usually much more time has lapsed.
I understand and appreciate that if someone keeps bringing up something that happened years ago that was discussed, supposedly resolved, and they’re still mad about it, they need to let it go. Even if the situation was never resolved, I realize that sometimes one just has to put things into their proper perspective and move on.
But how about this: Someone is slighted or insulted, and the other person knows it but never apologizes or makes an effort to ‘make things right’ or even acknowledge any wrongdoing. Time passes (months or even years). The person who was insulted never brings it up or discusses the incident with anyone. These two people see each other or have a reason to communicate about something unrelated to what happened, and the person who did/said something wrong right off the bat says “I don’t want to talk about the past”.
I know…………”it all depends”. But generally speaking, what are the parameters of “in the past” and when is it okay/not okay to bring up past transgressions?