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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #165 on: September 05, 2013, 04:33:23 PM »
... I'm a soccer referee and the kids are absolutely not allowed to play with anything in their ears, nor are they allowed to cover them up with tape. The earrings have to come out. Except that this is the first weekend of the season (and early in the school year) so of course they go out and get their ears pierced a day or so before the game -- and argue that they can't take the earring out until everything heals. Hence the unhappy little girl who's so proud of her new earrings but isn't allowed to play. And I'm a big meanie. *sigh*

Do you have any way of knowing the names of the kids who are going to be playing before the school year begins?  If so, would it be possible to send a note home to parents either before school lets out in the spring or at least six weeks before school begins again in the fall reminding them about the no earrings rule and that there will be NO EXCEPTIONS!! 

Maybe that would help the parents and girls choose a more appropriate time for piercing -- either well before or right after soccer season.

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« Reply #166 on: September 05, 2013, 04:44:07 PM »
... I'm a soccer referee and the kids are absolutely not allowed to play with anything in their ears, nor are they allowed to cover them up with tape. The earrings have to come out. Except that this is the first weekend of the season (and early in the school year) so of course they go out and get their ears pierced a day or so before the game -- and argue that they can't take the earring out until everything heals. Hence the unhappy little girl who's so proud of her new earrings but isn't allowed to play. And I'm a big meanie. *sigh*

Do you have any way of knowing the names of the kids who are going to be playing before the school year begins?  If so, would it be possible to send a note home to parents either before school lets out in the spring or at least six weeks before school begins again in the fall reminding them about the no earrings rule and that there will be NO EXCEPTIONS!! 

Maybe that would help the parents and girls choose a more appropriate time for piercing -- either well before or right after soccer season.
Art, you're AYSO correct? If so, then everyone has already read and signed off on the rules, including earrings...in my area anyway. But, yes, there are always the special ones who ignore it.
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« Reply #167 on: September 05, 2013, 04:50:12 PM »
My mother did like her soap operas and this is a humorous example of it and an example of her need to worry. 

For a few months after I moved into my own apartment, I retained a joint checking account with my mother.  On one visit home, she seemed disturbed about something.  I soon learned what it was.

After dinner she sat me down for a serious talk.  With tears in her eyes she wanted to know who someone I'll call 'Mr. Jones' was and why was I paying him 'all this money every month'.

'Mr. Jones' was my landlord and 'all this money every money every month' was my rent. 

Mother was greatly relieved.  She thought that 'Mr. Jones' was blackmailing me. 
 

I'm sorry but I found that to be absolutely hysterical!

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« Reply #168 on: September 05, 2013, 05:55:47 PM »
... I'm a soccer referee and the kids are absolutely not allowed to play with anything in their ears, nor are they allowed to cover them up with tape. The earrings have to come out. Except that this is the first weekend of the season (and early in the school year) so of course they go out and get their ears pierced a day or so before the game -- and argue that they can't take the earring out until everything heals. Hence the unhappy little girl who's so proud of her new earrings but isn't allowed to play. And I'm a big meanie. *sigh*

Do you have any way of knowing the names of the kids who are going to be playing before the school year begins?  If so, would it be possible to send a note home to parents either before school lets out in the spring or at least six weeks before school begins again in the fall reminding them about the no earrings rule and that there will be NO EXCEPTIONS!! 

Maybe that would help the parents and girls choose a more appropriate time for piercing -- either well before or right after soccer season.

We tell the coaches this every year. They tell their families every year. Someone ignores it every year.

Art, you're AYSO correct? If so, then everyone has already read and signed off on the rules, including earrings...in my area anyway. But, yes, there are always the special ones who ignore it.

Ayup, that's me! And then there's my nemesis -- the "other ref". "The other ref let her play with earrings in!" When I catch up to "the other ref," s/he's going to get put in a remedial refereeing class, or have to put up with me supervising his/her games for a few weeks. Strangely, there's never a name and the family can't remember if it was last week or the week before, so they're not sure which game it was and well, all you refs look the same so how could we know who it is and besides you're just doing this to be mean to little kids. (Yeah, I give up my weekends, get verbally abused by parents all for the joy of making little girls cry.)

Maybe I'll have some good Special Snowflake stories this season!
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« Reply #169 on: September 05, 2013, 07:21:48 PM »
both my parents were very supportive of their children.  However my mother did have a thing about jeans.  We had to buy them with our own money, and were not permitted to wear them as 'tidy wear'.

Cue a recent visit to the nursing home, where my mother now lives.  She was wearing jeans, and when I expressed amazement she treated me to a lecture about how comfy they were and how come I had let her get 87 before she found out!

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« Reply #170 on: September 05, 2013, 07:48:19 PM »
It kinds of annoys me when I see babies with pierced ears. They should have to nag their moms at least as much as I had to do first!
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« Reply #171 on: September 05, 2013, 09:51:54 PM »
I coached our in our soccer association for 6 years and the rule was all jewelry off but if it was a new piercing it had to be covered with band aids.  We did have one SS parent who said their child would NOT wear band aids over their ears.  She wasn't happy sitting out the whole game but had band aids the next game.  It was asked, at each seasons sign up, that they wait till the season was over to get the piercings, but it wasn't forbidden.  I actually only encountered it twice in the 6 years, twice a year seasons.

My dad said only loose women got their ears pierced.  Repeatedly..after I lied at 16 to get mine done.

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« Reply #172 on: September 05, 2013, 11:10:15 PM »
I'm very lucky in that my parents have always been more supportive than critical, but my mother has one thing about my house that she hates and she ALWAYS harps about when she stops by.  This big awful thing that drives her so mad? 

Dog kennels.

I have dog kennels in my living room-dining/computer room.  I have three dogs.  Those of you who recall my house photo thread have at least some idea of the fact that Bedside Manor is very small, and I'm very limited as to where the crates could go.  My mom suggested the back porch room (which gets hot as blazes in the summer and just as cold as outside(about-40C ) in winter.  The basement? That's where the cat food and litterboxes are.  The basement floor is bare concrete so the dogs would be quite cold and it would be hard on their joints.  Also, the basement has a door that is always closed that has a cat door already installed.  Kitties can go downstairs, all three dogs are trained to not.  If I go down to do laundry or whatever, they all stop and wait at the top of the stairs.  I like that (no tripping over dogs running up and down the stairs) and I'm not un-training them now.  Bedroom and kitchen are both out of the question.  So I'm pretty much keeping the kennels the only place I CAN keep the kennels.

I'm not seeing the big deal.  The crates are vacuumed and cleaned regularly so it's not like they're filthy or ugly.  I just don't get it.
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« Reply #173 on: September 05, 2013, 11:38:51 PM »
It kinds of annoys me when I see babies with pierced ears. They should have to nag their moms at least as much as I had to do first!

So, after reading the above, here was what I envisioned: Mom frazzled about baby crying for hours, in exhaustion, thinks, "Maybe baby is crying about wanting her ears pierced! I will take her right away!"

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« Reply #174 on: September 05, 2013, 11:52:34 PM »
Okay, this is my big complaint about my mother: When I was going to college, my mother said to me, "I always thought that (youngest sister) would be the one that went to college!" I sat there and ate my tongue.

Yeah, I took college prep classes for no reason because when I was 17, my father told me I had 12 months to live at home. Despite the fact that I wouldn't have finished high school yet! (To my mother's credit, she at least got him to let me stay until I graduated.) So, even though I wanted to go to college, I joined the Army instead.

So, she always thought my sister would be THE ONE to go to college?!!  Really?!! Huh, I always thought that I would be the one ... until my parents wouldn't even let me live at home and pay my own way through college. ARG!

It took me 26 years to start college, but I did it in 4 years and I was on the Dean's list every single quarter! Thanks, Mom, for telling me that you don't think I'm smart enough or dedicated enough.

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« Reply #175 on: September 06, 2013, 12:55:54 AM »
I appreciate deeply the fact that my parents' criticism of me are totally small potatoes, and mostly either laughed at or easily ignored.

One that amuses me the most was when I got my nose pierced. I was 18, a freshman in college, and got it pierced the weekend before Thanksgiving. I was nice enough to tell my mom about it before she saw me, and she was about as dubious as I expected her to be. When she saw it for the first time, she told me, "I guess it's not so bad, if you don't mind having a silver zit on your nose for the rest of your life." Gee, thanks Mom.

I am now 28 and still have said nose piercing. People still ask me when I got it done, even though the answer is usually something along the lines of "6 years before I met you." If people notice it at all (which they mostly don't), it's because they like it and think it looks good. I pierced my nose in the first place because I have an exceptionally nice one and wanted to decorate it (;)), but I am also fortunate that the guy who pierced it did an exceptionally good job in choosing a location for the piercing.

The other one that has always amused me is my dad's thoughts on makeup. Both my parents came of age in the 60s and 70s, and I'm originally from Texas. My dad's mental picture of "woman wearing makeup" is someone with foundation troweled on so thick it'll crack if she so much as smiles, 1/4" thick eyeliner, and uber-blond hair teased within an inch of it's life.

At least for the past decade or so, I have leaned very heavily towards the "Makeup? What makeup?" look. My dad has absolutely no idea when I'm wearing makeup, because it doesn't look like his mental picture. But if I tell him that I'm wearing it (or someone else does), he'll get all disapproving because makeup is over the top. For him, there is no middle ground between "no makeup" and "1970s Texas Beauty Queen makeup."

My hair has sort of recently become a bit of a bone of contention, mostly with my mom. I recently discovered that my hair is curly, and so I style it in such a way that the strands stick together in clumps (to form locks of hair) because it defines the curls and keeps frizz at bay. My mom's opinion of this is that "your hair used to be so soft" and to make mostly-not-joking jokes about how I never let her touch it anymore.

The irony to this whole thing is that the texture of my hair is exactly like my mom's (only her hair is thinner, finer, and less frizzy). She wears it short now, so the length and the fact that it's actually more manageable than mine means she can comb it and still have it look nice. She's told me dozens of stories about the lengths she used to go to to get straight hair (none of which could ever compete against humidity), but still scoffs at me when I tell her I wear my hair the way I do pretty much entirely because my hair laughs in the face of blow dryers and flat irons. Even if I wanted to wear it brushed so it's smooth and straight (I don't), it's never once in my life actually done that. Even when I spent half an hour every morning blow drying it in high school, the ends would still curl and the whole lot of it would get frizzy and tangled.

Seriously, both my siblings and my dad have extremely curly hair. I'm pretty much over fighting genetics here. I'll take smooth ringlets my mom isn't allowed to touch over frizzy, wavy, tangled hair that nothing can beat into submission any day.


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« Reply #176 on: September 06, 2013, 08:58:39 AM »
My mom is great, but once in a rare while she must be in a mood because she would pick a fight with me for no good reason when I lived at home.  Usually this fight would involve a guilt trip.

On one of my pre-teen birthdays (can't remember which), my grandmother couldn't come because she sick.  I expressed regret that Grandmom would not be there to celebrate my birthday with us as she always had in the past and I would miss her.  My mom goes on a rant out of the blue that I am selfish and should be ashamed of myself that I am complaining about not getting a gift.  I never said anything about a gift and wasn't even thinking about it, but thanks Mom for thinking the best of me.  :-\

I was a teenager at the time and attending church the Sunday after the youth group went to a summer retreat.  We all got t-shirts at the retreat and the youth leader suggested we wear them to church.  Younger people commonly dressed more casually for church so it wasn't out of the norm.  I wore mine with a pair of long shorts, not denim, but still casual.  My mom complained that I was dressed inappropriately and I said the leader suggested we wear the shirts and the shorts go nicely with them.  She made another comment along the lines of 'what will people think' and I said 'I don't care what people think'.  Being self-conscious teenager, her remarks made me doubt my clothing choice.  She starts harping about how I do care about how people think, otherwise I wouldn't be so annoyed by her comments and kept going on and on about it.  So she was right, but it was a stupid argument and she should have dropped it.  It's like she was enjoying pressing my buttons.  Now that I am a parent, I hope I know  when to keep my mouth shut and don't continue on with a silly point and upset my kids must for the sake of being 'right'.

I usually kept my personal life private from my parents as I got older and didn't confide in them, especially about relationships.  When I was 19, I had been in a relationship for over a year, but was becoming bored and had another guy in college that I found interesting.  I wanted to break up with my then bf and date around.  I felt guilty because bf wasn't a bad person or hadn't done anything to want to break up and also felt guilty because I developing feelings for somebody else while still having a bf.  Anyway, I was confiding in my mom about my feelings and felt that I should be honest with Joe and tell him I wanted to see other people.  In that tone of voice that drips with disapproval she said "well, *sigh* if breaking up with Joe will make you feel less guilty" and basically said my wanting to be honest with my then bf was my selfish way of trying to rid myself of guilt.  And my parents wonder when I barely ever confided in them.


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« Reply #177 on: September 06, 2013, 10:21:36 AM »
However, as a teen, I was told that my influence was causing younger (adopted) siblings to act up

Ha, yeah, I got in trouble anytime one of the younger sibs cussed. I must have taught them the words, you see. Protestations that they had learned the words from movies (or their own friends) fell on deaf ears.

When I was in college, my older brothers waited to tell the youngest a few swear words.... until a weekend I was due back.  Knowing I would get the "well, he never swore before you came home from college".  Pretty clever, really :)

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« Reply #178 on: September 06, 2013, 10:50:52 AM »
I was going through the devastating end of a 6-year serious relationship.  I happened to mention some random guy (a neighbor or classmate) to my mom, and she said, "Are you trying to get him to ask you out?"  I said, "Why would you ask that?", and she said, "Oh, you just seem to go from one guy to another". 

Just about any time I mention any male, Mom asks "Is he married?"  One time I mentioned some male and added "and no, he's not married".  Mom responded with, "Is he black?"  :o 
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« Reply #179 on: September 06, 2013, 11:18:11 AM »
I was going through the devastating end of a 6-year serious relationship.  I happened to mention some random guy (a neighbor or classmate) to my mom, and she said, "Are you trying to get him to ask you out?"  I said, "Why would you ask that?", and she said, "Oh, you just seem to go from one guy to another". 

Just about any time I mention any male, Mom asks "Is he married?"  One time I mentioned some male and added "and no, he's not married".  Mom responded with, "Is he black?"  :o

My mother believes the only two acceptable excuses for me not dating any man I mention is them being married or not attracted to women. If I say "He has a long-term, live-in girlfriend," her response is: "Well, it's not like that sounds permanent."