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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #210 on: September 07, 2013, 05:17:22 PM »
This one is kind of stupid, but I live at home, and my mother will sometimes (okay, often) buy something while grocery shopping (lunch meat, salad, fruit, what-have-you), and then complain if it goes bad.  "I bought this stuff, you didn't even eat it, and now I have to throw it away."

Not to sound ungrateful, but I don't ask her to buy that stuff, and I'm not always in the mood to eat it.  When I can, I buy my own food, things that I would prefer to eat, and she'll click her tongue and say, "That's not very good for you."  Hey, I'm 31 years old.  I know.  I also know that I'm tired of feeling like a sitting duck.

I think she just likes to have an excuse to complain.

My mother does this. She will also buy things that she has been told I don't like, and get grumpy because "you never told me you didn't like it!" Almost invariably, they'll be things she doesn't particularly like either, so they will go to waste.

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« Reply #211 on: September 07, 2013, 05:45:34 PM »
This one is kind of stupid, but I live at home, and my mother will sometimes (okay, often) buy something while grocery shopping (lunch meat, salad, fruit, what-have-you), and then complain if it goes bad.  "I bought this stuff, you didn't even eat it, and now I have to throw it away."

Not to sound ungrateful, but I don't ask her to buy that stuff, and I'm not always in the mood to eat it.  When I can, I buy my own food, things that I would prefer to eat, and she'll click her tongue and say, "That's not very good for you."  Hey, I'm 31 years old.  I know.  I also know that I'm tired of feeling like a sitting duck.

I think she just likes to have an excuse to complain.

My mother does this. She will also buy things that she has been told I don't like, and get grumpy because "you never told me you didn't like it!" Almost invariably, they'll be things she doesn't particularly like either, so they will go to waste.

My mom does the same with fruit.  She buys a ton and complains I don't eat it all within a week, yet she eats none of it.  I tell her I don't like to eat a lot of fruit but she simply doesn't listen.  I no longer waste my breath.  And so the cycle keeps continuing.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #212 on: September 07, 2013, 07:28:03 PM »
My dad decides things in his head and nothing will change them, things he has decided include:
I have a second (full English breakfast) every day at work.
Once a week our canteen used to do a cooked breakfast of five items for 1.  When that was the case I used to get two sausages, beans, a fried egg and a hash brown.  They stopped doing that about six months after I started at my job, put the price up and I wasn't interested any more.  I was at that job for five years and he still maintained I had a full english breakfast every day.

All of my worldly belongings are still in his (and mum's) house.
I have left a pair of pjs and some spare underwear in a drawer in my old room in case I ever have to spend the night which happens maybe once a year other than xmas.  On the windowsill there is a jigsaw and money box which while technically mine are basically nostalgia for my mum and having them there keeps it as "my" room so they never got moved out.  There is a box of university work in the garage.  That's pretty much it.  Everything else moved out with me five years ago when I left home.

My brother left home six years ago and his bedroom still has all his books, CDs and general knicknacks on display as well as underneath the bed and the garage being chock full of his things.

I asked my dad if we could put some boxes in the garage while we had carpets fitted and was subjected to a lecture on how I better take them back and not just leave them there  ::)

He hasn't found the extra tiles I hid in the garage after we had our kitchen and bathroom renovated  ;)

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #213 on: September 07, 2013, 08:37:00 PM »
My Mom has a bit of Snow White Syndrome going on. When I'm heavier she always tuts at me and says stuff about exercise and eating well. When I'm thinner than her she tells me not to overdo it and starts getting really interested in what EXACTLY I weigh.

My father didn't want me to go to law school this far away from home and wouldn't hear ANYTHING about how this is the only place for the type of law I want to study. He criticized everything from the weather to the cost of living to the idea of putting more miles on my car. Now that I'm here he doesn't say anything about it, but seriously for a few months I wanted to tear my hair out.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #214 on: September 07, 2013, 09:36:55 PM »
My FIL frequents a discount grocery store. He will buy things that sit at his house for a few months, then they suddenly appear at our house. I know they are not ours as we would never purchase some of the types of things and I donate them to the food pantry if they are not expired and throw them away if they are expired. About every other month we are asked if we used whatever it was.

For the record, these are what we usually get: All off brand, and some don't have legible expiration dates either.

Split pea soup with ham
Alfredo sauce, separated with floating bits inside
Cans of Lima beans
Cans of sausage gravy
Cans of Chicken chili

We don't eat any of those!

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« Reply #215 on: September 07, 2013, 09:39:23 PM »
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From my mother: Coloring your hair is lying to the world.

Using that logic, so is wearing false eyelashes, any type of hair piece, Spanx, and having capped teeth.

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My mother used to say that God had given you the right haircolor and it was sacrilegious to color your hair. However, God could apparently be mistaken about the curliness of same hair and the shape of our bodies, as ladies always wore 'foundation garments' and perms were definitely an option.

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« Reply #216 on: September 07, 2013, 10:36:57 PM »
Not a direct criticism, and from KidSis rather than a parent. She held back her son (born Dec. 1) from starting grade 1, even though he qualified by age. When I asked her about her decision, she countered with, "You started before you were six, and then you were a real genius and so you never had any friends. I don't want my kids to go through that." I pointed out to her that my IQ was not determined by what age I started school, and my social isolation in school was not due to my IQ/grades, but because I was a loner, an introvert, and a geek ( and quite happy with my status).

I asked her not to hold her kids back from excelling based on my life - it would be so unfair to them if she did.
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« Reply #217 on: September 07, 2013, 11:27:10 PM »
My mother had a real issue with the timing of when I started a family. She talked about it as though I was an unwed teenage mother with no knowledge of who the child's father was, rather than a 22 year old woman who'd been married for a year already.

I pointed out a few times "I'm only two years younger than you were when I was born" and got "Well times were different, then!" My dad was still in grad school when I was born so I suspect I was a surprise when I came along and they'd meant to wait longer to start having kids, or at least till he graduated. 

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« Reply #218 on: September 07, 2013, 11:32:09 PM »
My mother decided I was a rather devious and underhanded person.  She tells people that as a kid I would drink my sister's sodas knowing that when hers ran out I could drink mine because she hated root beer.  Not even close to true, but she still tells people that.

She'd go to the grocery store and pick up a 6 pack of cream soda and a 6 pack of root beer. She'd get the cream soda because my sister liked it, and root beer because I'd drink it.   I think she thought it was my favorite drink ever, and maybe it once was.  But by the time we were old enough that she started buying sodas just for us, root beer was merely tolerable if there were no other sodas.   I'd come home and see cream soda in the fridge and I'd drink it, because cream soda was just so much better that root beer.



Mom also used to get mad if someone ate the last of a snack.  Looking back at it now, it was probably more of a "I just bought this box of twinkies three days ago, and they are all gone! They were supposed to last longer!".  But as a kid we just learned that after the last snack was gone mom would get mad.   So we learned that you NEVER eat the last snack.

A few years ago mom went through the cupboards and looked in the snack boxes and threw a fit because she hated it when she'd buy a pack of eight twinkies and we'd only eat seven.  And why don't we ever finish anything?

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #219 on: September 07, 2013, 11:42:27 PM »
I know my Mom worried about me not having many friends like my more social cousin and Sister - but in part she blamed herself and Dad for not picking up  on the bullying and doing something earlier. I simply don't trust many people.

All the adults in my life were frustrated by the fact I could correctly read words, and use them in conversation but couldn't spell to save my life. I was even tested in elementary and JH - but my reading level was too high for me to have any LD having to do with language according to the criteria being used. (Actually If I was in school today I wouldn't qualify as LD in Texas. Neither would my sister or our dyslexic cousins. WE could be 504ed but not receive SPED interventions)

One comment that makes me want to take a clue by 4 to my sister and cousins "I hope "child" gets his/her smarts from his/her  father not me." Now my cousins' husbands and my BIL are smart guys don't get me wrong. Thing is Sis and cousins graduated in the top half of their competitive High Schools, went to good universities (where we all were diagnosed) and graduated with decent grades - while they were all reading on a FOURTH - FIFTH grade level. They don't get the massive intelligence and coping skills behind accomplishing that. For them not reading for pleasure = not smart.

Considering how much reading one does for any subject, how on earth is it possible to graduate college with that reading level?
That is what they both tested at according to the specialists at their universities. Now cousin tends to choke on tests - but Sis regularly scored in the 90th percentile or higher on things like ITBS, COGAT, and TABS. That is kind of my point - they are off the charts smart - just don't process text like the rest of you. They got a lot out of lectures, worked with study groups, Sis kind of scans for information rather than reading whole texts. Reading for pleasure is not something either of them do. Many Reading level tests focus on fiction because it is easier. I know both of them would score low on comprehension - because they wouldn't remember things like character names. Even with movies or tv shows it is that guy or the girl not character names. Something we take points off for in 2nd grade DRA.

When I was in school I caused  a problem in school we were taking either the ITBS or COGAT. During recess I told an upset classmate just mark the darker answer. The teacher heard. She double checked my booklet to see if there was a printing error. There wasn't - I still swore up and down the right answers were darker.
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #220 on: September 08, 2013, 12:37:01 AM »
I know my Mom worried about me not having many friends like my more social cousin and Sister - but in part she blamed herself and Dad for not picking up  on the bullying and doing something earlier. I simply don't trust many people.

All the adults in my life were frustrated by the fact I could correctly read words, and use them in conversation but couldn't spell to save my life. I was even tested in elementary and JH - but my reading level was too high for me to have any LD having to do with language according to the criteria being used. (Actually If I was in school today I wouldn't qualify as LD in Texas. Neither would my sister or our dyslexic cousins. WE could be 504ed but not receive SPED interventions)

One comment that makes me want to take a clue by 4 to my sister and cousins "I hope "child" gets his/her smarts from his/her  father not me." Now my cousins' husbands and my BIL are smart guys don't get me wrong. Thing is Sis and cousins graduated in the top half of their competitive High Schools, went to good universities (where we all were diagnosed) and graduated with decent grades - while they were all reading on a FOURTH - FIFTH grade level. They don't get the massive intelligence and coping skills behind accomplishing that. For them not reading for pleasure = not smart.

Considering how much reading one does for any subject, how on earth is it possible to graduate college with that reading level?
That is what they both tested at according to the specialists at their universities. Now cousin tends to choke on tests - but Sis regularly scored in the 90th percentile or higher on things like ITBS, COGAT, and TABS. That is kind of my point - they are off the charts smart - just don't process text like the rest of you. They got a lot out of lectures, worked with study groups, Sis kind of scans for information rather than reading whole texts. Reading for pleasure is not something either of them do. Many Reading level tests focus on fiction because it is easier. I know both of them would score low on comprehension - because they wouldn't remember things like character names. Even with movies or tv shows it is that guy or the girl not character names. Something we take points off for in 2nd grade DRA.

When I was in school I caused  a problem in school we were taking either the ITBS or COGAT. During recess I told an upset classmate just mark the darker answer. The teacher heard. She double checked my booklet to see if there was a printing error. There wasn't - I still swore up and down the right answers were darker.

That sounds like a form of synethesia. I read about a girl once who is an absolute maths genius who sees the right answer as a colour. She knows when she has it right because the number or equation is a particular colour and so it must be right.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #221 on: September 08, 2013, 04:38:33 PM »
My sister is like that but with words. She can tell a word is spelled correctly because it looks the right colour, blending each letter into the next (each letter has a colour). A wrong letter will be a jarring, different colour.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #222 on: September 08, 2013, 10:07:48 PM »
Not a criticism but something they wouldn't let die:

When I was a teenager, a friend of mine was visiting and her creepy jealous boyfriend was calling to check up on her, again.
I answered the phone and (with, I admit, ill-placed humor) said, "Oh, hi Ted, yeah Sandy's here...we picked up a bunch of Norwegian sailors on the way over and we're having quite the party! Sandy, get off Gunter's lap! Ted's on the phone!" He a actually got mad at her over it.  (Extra weird, we're waaaaaaaay inland and totally not the sort of gals who'd pick up random men of any sort.)

But that's not the thing.  Apparently, based on that joke, my entire family decided that *I* was obsessed with sailors.  ???  They would not shut up about this imaginary preference. I couldn't even enjoy the old musicals I love if there were "sailor" characters without their weird comments.  It was very tiresome and soooo annoying.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #223 on: September 09, 2013, 10:13:54 AM »
This is minor but it annoys nonetheless.

MIL is greatly concerned about our vacations.  She has been really pushing for us to go on Elderhostel tours, going so far as to have catalogs sent to us.   She's slightly mollified if we spend a few days in Rome, London or Barcelona before a transatlantic cruise.  After all, these cities have educational value.

However, a visit to the Caribbean is a total waste of time and money. 

She's also rather disapproving about our reading habits.  Heaven forfend that Mr. Thipu bring a sci-fi book when we come to visit.  I like true crime books and mysteries.  These are also frowned upon. 

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #224 on: September 09, 2013, 10:37:50 AM »
This is minor but it annoys nonetheless.

MIL is greatly concerned about our vacations.  She has been really pushing for us to go on Elderhostel tours, going so far as to have catalogs sent to us.   She's slightly mollified if we spend a few days in Rome, London or Barcelona before a transatlantic cruise.  After all, these cities have educational value.

However, a visit to the Caribbean is a total waste of time and money. 

She's also rather disapproving about our reading habits.  Heaven forfend that Mr. Thipu bring a sci-fi book when we come to visit.  I like true crime books and mysteries.  These are also frowned upon.
In contrast, my MIL criticized us for buying our niece (her granddaughter) books for her birthday. "Yoo, hoo! Did you forget they invented television? There's no need for kids to read books any more!"