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XRogue

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #105 on: September 04, 2013, 06:52:16 AM »
My hair is wrong too. I am "too old" to wear it long. Also I am a henna redhead, and was informed I shouldn't use henna because it "was an Arab discovery!" Please, no offense meant.

My response? "Guess we'll have to give up using zeroes then!"

Genius!

Thank you, Bethalize. :) What makes that even funnier was the fact Dad is an engineer. :p Yes, I'm a smartalec.

StarFaerie

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #106 on: September 04, 2013, 07:16:54 AM »
My hair is wrong too. I am "too old" to wear it long. Also I am a henna redhead, and was informed I shouldn't use henna because it "was an Arab discovery!" Please, no offense meant.

My response? "Guess we'll have to give up using zeroes then!"

Genius!

Thank you, Bethalize. :) What makes that even funnier was the fact Dad is an engineer. :p Yes, I'm a smartalec.

The only issue is that 0 was an Indian/Hindi innovation not Arab.
« Last Edit: September 04, 2013, 09:05:31 PM by StarFaerie »

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #107 on: September 04, 2013, 07:32:29 AM »
I am very lucky that I put my foot down as an adult and don't get anymore of this.

However, as a teen, I was told that my influence was causing younger (adopted) siblings to act up, they would try to one-up me so someday when they were selling themselves for heroin money it would be My Fault. Yeah my psych had to really help me with that one. The ironic thing was, I had a 3.9 GPA, I went to all of two parties where there was alcohol my entire teenage life, and one of those parties got busted but I was not in trouble because I passed the breathalyzer test. I didn't play scrabble until I was getting ready to graduate high school, and as young as my parents were when they married I wasn't actually much younger, I just didn't have a ring on my finger. So all my sibs would have had to do to one-up me was actually drink a beer or start dating early...None of them have ended up selling themselves for drugs at this point, though I do have a brother I wrote about in the scammers thread who is serving time, thankfully no one blames me for his many, many wrong choices. He has fetal alcohol syndrome, you see, so we all need to forgive him again and again (ha) because he can't make good choices, totally incapable.

I also got the "quit sticking your butt out" thing, after several times I finally said "That's how my butt is built!!" and Mom knocked it off. Note, it did look funny, I had a thigh gap and a bedonk-a-donk all at the same time, and her comments didn't help. There were little things about skin and hair...we'd dye our hair together every 6 months or so from the time I was 10 (this was after several failed attempts at a perm when I was 7) until Mom got her colors mixed up and I ended up with gorgeous burgundy hair at 16. I loved it but she wasn't too happy.

The time I sprinted faster than my track-running sister and beat her to goal, didn't really rub her face in it or anything but apparently it really hurt her feelings because Mom lectured me about how my sister works so hard, and I'm naturally fast but should let her win because she actually works for it...that one was a bit strange to me even back then.

Again, very grateful that comments have mostly stopped as I've become an adult. I had to mostly cut off my FOO for about a year (holiday contact only) and after that we don't talk about controversial topics (my not taking the kids to church, my tattoos, DH and my occasional alcoholic beverages and daily coffee, to make a short list). Unfortunately I don't always hear about the big things that happen in my sib's lives, but as they grow up and realize they can reach out to me themselves it's been helping.
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #108 on: September 04, 2013, 07:39:30 AM »
However, as a teen, I was told that my influence was causing younger (adopted) siblings to act up

Ha, yeah, I got in trouble anytime one of the younger sibs cussed. I must have taught them the words, you see. Protestations that they had learned the words from movies (or their own friends) fell on deaf ears.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #109 on: September 04, 2013, 08:56:01 AM »
I can't believe I left this out  of my first post on here.

BG:  my parents  had a difficult  marriage and NASTY divorce.  My mom still  criticizes me for having a relationship or even speaking to  my father.  I totally get why she doesn't, but she has been informed she cannot dictate to me who I can speak to.
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #110 on: September 04, 2013, 09:18:43 AM »
More petty criticism from Stamp Dad (O.P.):

Recently I sent Dad a box of books.  Due to complaints in the past about opening packages, I devised a system that I thought would make unwrapping fairly easy.  Dad received instructions a couple of days before the package arrived.

Today I got an angry letter about the packaging.  How long exactly, he wanted to know, did it take me to tape the package up like that?  He struggled for 15 minutes to get the top layer off!  He had to ask an aide for help!  The instructions I sent were completely ignored.

Also, he was unhappy with the first book he read.  It was a lighthearted look at a piece of local history.  Dad was indignant that the consumption of alcohol was condoned in some of the book’s anecdotes.  Also, there were some typographical errors.  This is somehow my fault. 
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ScubaGirl

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #111 on: September 04, 2013, 09:25:06 AM »
More petty criticism from Stamp Dad (O.P.):

Recently I sent Dad a box of books.  Due to complaints in the past about opening packages, I devised a system that I thought would make unwrapping fairly easy.  Dad received instructions a couple of days before the package arrived.

Today I got an angry letter about the packaging.  How long exactly, he wanted to know, did it take me to tape the package up like that?  He struggled for 15 minutes to get the top layer off!  He had to ask an aide for help!  The instructions I sent were completely ignored.

Also, he was unhappy with the first book he read.  It was a lighthearted look at a piece of local history.  Dad was indignant that the consumption of alcohol was condoned in some of the book’s anecdotes.  Also, there were some typographical errors.  This is somehow my fault.

Wow!  You have the patience of a saint to put up with all of that.  Would it do any good at all for you to take a red pen and mark up his letter with all the areas that hurt your feelings and/or weren't your fault and send it back to him?  Could he learn?

Cz. Burrito

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #112 on: September 04, 2013, 09:38:52 AM »
Yikes.  I'm shocked that half of the posters here have anything to do with their parents now!  I need to remember to tell mine how awesome they are.

CrazyDaffodilLady

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #113 on: September 04, 2013, 09:40:27 AM »
It takes two people to play tug of war. If you don't want to play, don't pick up the rope.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #114 on: September 04, 2013, 10:47:07 AM »
My hair is wrong too. I am "too old" to wear it long. Also I am a henna redhead, and was informed I shouldn't use henna because it "was an Arab discovery!" Please, no offense meant.

My response? "Guess we'll have to give up using zeroes then!"

Genius!

Thank you, Bethalize. :) What makes that even funnier was the fact Dad is an engineer. :p Yes, I'm a smartalec.
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The only issue is that 0 was an Indian/Hindi innovation not Arab.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #115 on: September 04, 2013, 10:53:23 AM »
My mom was a teacher and I have an LD.  'nuff said?  In spite of this, I worked my heiney off and managed to pull in pretty good grades (some As, A-s and Bs).  But if it wasn't an A or an A+ she'd tell me that I could probably do better next time.  The day I brought home a C in chemistry was not a happy day for me, in spite of getting extra help and working my tail off in that class.  I did fine in lab but my brain just could not figure out the theories.  It was dreadful.

I managed to graduate in the National Honor Society and in the upper 20 in my class but I wasn't valedictorian and therefore, I probably shouldn't have bothered.   ::)

My live-in MIL is a critiplainer.  (Complaints and criticism all rolled into one wonderful package!)

We went on vacation once and brought back a pretty hand-blown, hand-painted Christmas ornament from the country we were visiting because she has this fabulous tree and loves to decorate.  "Well, I suppose it's nice but couldn't you have brought me something I can use all the time?"

She critiplained to me one time when I was cleaning prior to a family party that I was being rather unkind to SIL because she isn't much of a housekeeper and my having a clean and tidy house rubs it in her face. 

Whenever I do the cooking, there's always something just not quite right about the meal.

I hear something everyday, I have a million of them.  Many of them are directed to DH who just lets it roll off his back and I try to do the same. But every now and again, something sticks and I want to say, "Well, no one is making you live here."


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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #116 on: September 04, 2013, 11:20:24 AM »
Yikes.  I'm shocked that half of the posters here have anything to do with their parents now!  I need to remember to tell mine how awesome they are.

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spookycatlady

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #117 on: September 04, 2013, 11:46:08 AM »
Whenever I was in a period of unemployment, my Dad encouraged me to get a job flipping burgers (his words).  Mom would encourage me to get placed in a temp agency.

Neither of those suggestions are wrong-minded, but just showed a lack of understanding about who I was at the time and my personal situation:

The worst year of my life was working in a kitchen and it was the only job I've ever quit. 

And the temp agency?  I was at the time deeply troubled by an anxiety disorder triggered by new situations, new people, lack of routine and lack of stability.  I couldn't imagine a more inappropriate way to find a job.  I'm so grateful for therapy...

Incidentally, I got a job in a cubicle farm shortly after... lots of routine & stability.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #118 on: September 04, 2013, 12:00:32 PM »
More petty criticism from Stamp Dad (O.P.):

Recently I sent Dad a box of books.  Due to complaints in the past about opening packages, I devised a system that I thought would make unwrapping fairly easy.  Dad received instructions a couple of days before the package arrived.

Today I got an angry letter about the packaging.  How long exactly, he wanted to know, did it take me to tape the package up like that?  He struggled for 15 minutes to get the top layer off!  He had to ask an aide for help!  The instructions I sent were completely ignored.

Also, he was unhappy with the first book he read.  It was a lighthearted look at a piece of local history.  Dad was indignant that the consumption of alcohol was condoned in some of the book’s anecdotes.  Also, there were some typographical errors.  This is somehow my fault.
Why do you send him stuff if he treats you like this?

Piratelvr1121

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #119 on: September 04, 2013, 12:08:29 PM »
Yikes.  I'm shocked that half of the posters here have anything to do with their parents now!  I need to remember to tell mine how awesome they are.

POD!

Well a cut direct did take place between my parents and myself 4 years ago and those years have been rather pleasant. :)  The longer I go without them in my life, the less I'm inclined to invite it all back in.
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