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Piratelvr1121

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #300 on: September 16, 2013, 02:06:17 PM »
Mine sometimes would complain about me being too easy going.  Especially when it came to things my DH was doing, or they'd criticize him for not trying to control me more. 

DH would give me gift cards to Barnes and Noble for Mother's Day, then "kick" me out of the house to make use of it while he looked after the boys.  My mother would say "You left them alone with him?" This coming from the same woman who would say "I hate when men say they're babysitting their own kids!" My DH was perfectly capable of looking after our boys, mom just didn't like how he did it.

Or DH would buy something and I'd hear "Why didn't you stop him!" "I wasn't with him and its his money too and I don't have a problem with him buying an electrical fireplace. I like it!"

Or he'd hear "Why don't you stop her from liking THOSE movies?" meaning POTC.   ::)  I once told my mother while I was in college I don't believe in trying to control other people because you can only control yourself and your reactions to things.  She gave me a funny look. 

I just think it's funny. She grew up during the hippie movement and I act more like one than she ever did.
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #301 on: September 16, 2013, 02:55:28 PM »
For our wedding, DH was the one to remember to get cash before we arrived at the wedding destination, so he had all the paper currency.  At one point I was going somewhere with my family and not DH, and I said something about needing to get cash from him.  My mom was very bothered that I had to ask for money from him, like I was on an allowance!  Uh, no, I just forgot to get a couple of bills earlier in the trip.  I had to assure her that I in fact had equal financial control over the money.

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« Reply #302 on: September 16, 2013, 03:00:45 PM »
For our wedding, DH was the one to remember to get cash before we arrived at the wedding destination, so he had all the paper currency.  At one point I was going somewhere with my family and not DH, and I said something about needing to get cash from him.  My mom was very bothered that I had to ask for money from him, like I was on an allowance!  Uh, no, I just forgot to get a couple of bills earlier in the trip.  I had to assure her that I in fact had equal financial control over the money.

When we go out, I usually don't like to carry a purse. Unfortunately, I also like to wear things that don't have pockets. So, DH is kind enough to pop my ID and bank card in his wallet. Sometimes, he even carries my lip balm.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #303 on: September 16, 2013, 03:06:20 PM »
For our wedding, DH was the one to remember to get cash before we arrived at the wedding destination, so he had all the paper currency.  At one point I was going somewhere with my family and not DH, and I said something about needing to get cash from him.  My mom was very bothered that I had to ask for money from him, like I was on an allowance!  Uh, no, I just forgot to get a couple of bills earlier in the trip.  I had to assure her that I in fact had equal financial control over the money.

This makes me  ;D . MIL & FIL were always challenging DH on why I was the only one with cash (DH doesn't like to carry any).  They also constantly questioned why I drove my mini van instead of defaulting to the man driving.  1. It was my car; 2. We had to drive over bridges and DH has acrophobia.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #304 on: September 16, 2013, 05:40:50 PM »
My mom has to consult with my dad on any expenditure.

She doesn't understand that I pay all the bills, make sure there is enough in the accounts to cover any expenses, move money, etc. I sit at a desk at work, I have mobile banking at my fingertips at any moment of the day. It just makes more sense this way!
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #305 on: September 17, 2013, 12:21:57 PM »
My mom has to consult with my dad on any expenditure.

She doesn't understand that I pay all the bills, make sure there is enough in the accounts to cover any expenses, move money, etc. I sit at a desk at work, I have mobile banking at my fingertips at any moment of the day. It just makes more sense this way!

Just curious... Does she not get how you can pay stuff immediately with technology, or does she think you ought to consult with your SO before you pay something? I think the latter would bother me more... My mom gets this sometimes, from both her own mom and even from her same-aged friends! "You're about to buy something expensive--do you need to call and check with DH first?" ::) One, NO. Two, none of your business! (And by "expensive," I mean like, $200 of clothing. Not a car or something. Although my dad has frequently bought used cars, for himself, without consulting my mom, but that seems to work for them.)
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #306 on: September 17, 2013, 02:39:34 PM »
My mother thinks I should check with DH before spending any amount of money, even on bills.

DH and I have been together and operating in this manner for 19 years. He knows to put any planned expenditures on our shared financial calendar, so we both know about them.
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Lynn2000

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #307 on: September 17, 2013, 04:12:52 PM »
My mother thinks I should check with DH before spending any amount of money, even on bills.

DH and I have been together and operating in this manner for 19 years. He knows to put any planned expenditures on our shared financial calendar, so we both know about them.

Ah, I see. That IS frustrating! Couples just have different ways of doing things. Hopefully what they do works for them, but they shouldn't assume everyone operates the same way.

On an unrelated note... I thought of a ridiculous criticism from my grandma. She's said before she thinks my mom and I are "boring." That is, we don't tell her our problems, so she can pass them on to the rest of the family and her web of friends as the Dispenser of Knowledge. ::) (The "handling rumors" thread reminded me of this.)
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #308 on: September 17, 2013, 04:52:53 PM »
^ I get ignored by MIL because of that. I don't tell her anything, so she has nothing to use against us.
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #309 on: September 17, 2013, 06:58:11 PM »
I feel lucky. The only bit of criticism I get is from my Mom. "You have a heart of gold and book smarts, but you have no common sense." She says it with love and I understand her. Mainly because it is true.

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« Reply #310 on: September 17, 2013, 07:16:00 PM »

Do you think a piercing parlor would help me? My ears get these "lumps" in them every time I wear earrings. And DH can't leave them alone - he thinks he has to squeeze the lumps out through my piercings.  ::)
So I quit wearing earrings. Would a new set of holes help me out or is this an allergy? I've tried all types of metals and everything seems to cause these lumps.

Have you tried niobium or titanium?  Piercing parlors carry those. I'm extremely sensitive to most metals - can't even wear stainless steel or gold. I have niobium hoops and a medical piece of titanium (clipped)
I have not! Thanks - I'd never even heard of niobium before.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #311 on: September 17, 2013, 08:19:45 PM »
I was thinking about this thread today. My dad was an English teacher, and in his case this meant he was also the grammar, spelling, and handwriting police throughout my childhood. Picture me, six years old, bringing him my kindergarten homework, and he responds by getting out his red pen and closing the loop of my printed lower-case A because two millimeters were left open.  ::) This continued all through junior high and even some into high school.

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My dad doesn't get to read my stories. He's never asked, but he knows I let my mom (married, same household) read them, and sometimes she and I end up discussing them in front of him. (I try not to, but sometimes it happens.) Occasionally I've thought of letting him read them. But I know he would criticize them. I know he would get out his red pen and add in/cross out commas, circle typos, mark my sentences he thought were too long. (The stories would almost certainly be typed at this point, so at least he wouldn't be able to "fix" my handwriting!) I know that this would be his way of showing that he was engaged with my stories, that he was paying attention to them. But it would upset me. Even if he said, "This was very good," all I would see are the red marks he felt compelled to put on it.

Okay, not to make it all about MEEEE... But after I posted this and people responded, I got to thinking about it more. I said to my mom, "Do you think Dad would like to read my stories?" and she's like, "Of course!" I said, "I'm just afraid he'll get out his red pen and make corrections," and she said, "Well, tell him not to." Well that sounds... simple.

So tonight I saw him and I casually said, "I wrote some stories in fandom XYZ... Maybe you'd like to read them sometime." And he got all excited and said, "Yes, I would!" Then I said, "But you couldn't point out typos or fix the grammar or say ANYTHING BAD AT ALL about them." And the whole time I'm speaking, he's shaking his head, like, no, of course not! Then I changed the subject to something else, just in case we were about to have a Moment... Gotta avoid those.

So, we'll see. I don't want to lean either way on it yet. But I offered, I told him the conditions, and he agreed immediately without hesitation or defensiveness. So I don't know, maybe I was just building this whole thing up in my mind. ::)
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #312 on: September 17, 2013, 08:21:06 PM »
It kinds of annoys me when I see babies with pierced ears. They should have to nag their moms at least as much as I had to do first!

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Lol. You need to get them done the way my greatgrandmother got hers done. By her father, taking a break from spreading manure. She brought him a boiled darning needle to make the hole, and he held a field potato behind her ear as a support.

No infection at all.... :o

My mother did something similar.  Ran the needle through a flame, "numbed" my ears with an ice cube, and held a potato behind my ear.

I was 9 years old and a cry baby because it H U R T. Yes, they got infected. 

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #313 on: September 17, 2013, 10:08:55 PM »

Do you think a piercing parlor would help me? My ears get these "lumps" in them every time I wear earrings. And DH can't leave them alone - he thinks he has to squeeze the lumps out through my piercings.  ::)
So I quit wearing earrings. Would a new set of holes help me out or is this an allergy? I've tried all types of metals and everything seems to cause these lumps.

Have you tried niobium or titanium?  Piercing parlors carry those. I'm extremely sensitive to most metals - can't even wear stainless steel or gold. I have niobium hoops and a medical piece of titanium (clipped)
I have not! Thanks - I'd never even heard of niobium before.

I've also found that dabbing a cottonball in rubbing alcohol and going over the earring post with it helps a lot.  Pierced 20 years ago, and they still aren't really healed properly.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #314 on: September 18, 2013, 09:36:10 AM »

Do you think a piercing parlor would help me? My ears get these "lumps" in them every time I wear earrings. And DH can't leave them alone - he thinks he has to squeeze the lumps out through my piercings.  ::)
So I quit wearing earrings. Would a new set of holes help me out or is this an allergy? I've tried all types of metals and everything seems to cause these lumps.

Have you tried niobium or titanium?  Piercing parlors carry those. I'm extremely sensitive to most metals - can't even wear stainless steel or gold. I have niobium hoops and a medical piece of titanium (clipped)
I have not! Thanks - I'd never even heard of niobium before.

Warning: a bit pricey. A small niobium hoop runs about $30 USA.
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