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Venus193

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #315 on: September 18, 2013, 09:44:48 AM »
I just sent out a Halloween party announcement to my opera club and remembered that my mother couldn't understand Halloween.  Granted, it wasn't celebrated in her native country while she still lived there but she thought that it was strictly for children and kept asking when I was going to outgrow it.





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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #316 on: September 18, 2013, 09:49:48 AM »

Do you think a piercing parlor would help me? My ears get these "lumps" in them every time I wear earrings. And DH can't leave them alone - he thinks he has to squeeze the lumps out through my piercings.  ::)
So I quit wearing earrings. Would a new set of holes help me out or is this an allergy? I've tried all types of metals and everything seems to cause these lumps.

Have you tried niobium or titanium?  Piercing parlors carry those. I'm extremely sensitive to most metals - can't even wear stainless steel or gold. I have niobium hoops and a medical piece of titanium (clipped)
I have not! Thanks - I'd never even heard of niobium before.

Warning: a bit pricey. A small niobium hoop runs about $30 USA.

That's not much worse than 14-18 carat gold.  Fortunately, I can wear gold.  I seem to have a nickel allergy so cheap earrings are out.  I can get away with sterling silver but I prefer the gold for everyday wear.
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #317 on: September 18, 2013, 09:52:01 AM »
My aunt criticizes me because I have a cleaning lady who comes once every week or two.  "In my day, we were proud to keep a nice, clean house and didn't pay someone to do the work"  Yes, and in your day, you were a stay at home mom and housewife, not a single woman who works 50 hours or so a week.  Why would I spend my precious free time doing something I hate, like cleaning, when I could be doing something I love, like gardening or my hobbies?

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #318 on: September 18, 2013, 09:54:08 AM »
My aunt criticizes me because I have a cleaning lady who comes once every week or two.  "In my day, we were proud to keep a nice, clean house and didn't pay someone to do the work"  Yes, and in your day, you were a stay at home mom and housewife, not a single woman who works 50 hours or so a week.  Why would I spend my precious free time doing something I hate, like cleaning, when I could be doing something I love, like gardening or my hobbies?

Tell me about it.  ::)





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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #319 on: September 18, 2013, 10:33:41 AM »

Do you think a piercing parlor would help me? My ears get these "lumps" in them every time I wear earrings. And DH can't leave them alone - he thinks he has to squeeze the lumps out through my piercings.  ::)
So I quit wearing earrings. Would a new set of holes help me out or is this an allergy? I've tried all types of metals and everything seems to cause these lumps.

Have you tried niobium or titanium?  Piercing parlors carry those. I'm extremely sensitive to most metals - can't even wear stainless steel or gold. I have niobium hoops and a medical piece of titanium (clipped)
I have not! Thanks - I'd never even heard of niobium before.

Warning: a bit pricey. A small niobium hoop runs about $30 USA.

You can get niobium earrings for a lot less than $30. This medium pair is $15: http://shop.naturallynickelfree.com/collections/unisex-jewelry/products/simple-niobium-hoop-earrings

You can also buy just the earwires (in a lot of fun colours) and change them. $0.45 from Metalliferous, a little more from Rio Grande: http://store.metalliferous.com/prodinfo.asp?number=ANB118

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #320 on: September 18, 2013, 11:27:30 AM »
My aunt criticizes me because I have a cleaning lady who comes once every week or two.  "In my day, we were proud to keep a nice, clean house and didn't pay someone to do the work"  Yes, and in your day, you were a stay at home mom and housewife, not a single woman who works 50 hours or so a week.  Why would I spend my precious free time doing something I hate, like cleaning, when I could be doing something I love, like gardening or my hobbies?

Indeed!  I feel the same way.  I hate cleaning with a passion and me and my aunt are not home enough to keep up with things.  Now that my grandfather lives with us we have gone down to bi-weekly rather than weekly.

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« Reply #321 on: September 18, 2013, 11:46:43 AM »
My aunt criticizes me because I have a cleaning lady who comes once every week or two.  "In my day, we were proud to keep a nice, clean house and didn't pay someone to do the work"  Yes, and in your day, you were a stay at home mom and housewife, not a single woman who works 50 hours or so a week.  Why would I spend my precious free time doing something I hate, like cleaning, when I could be doing something I love, like gardening or my hobbies?

When I'm criticized  for paying someone to do things I "should" do myself, I tell them I'm giving someone a job to earn the money they need to put food on their table.  Yeah, try to make me feel guilty and you'll get some of it back >:D

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« Reply #322 on: September 18, 2013, 12:20:26 PM »
I've had people wonder why I don't hire someone to clean for me so I don't have to. 

I have a few reasons, really. 1) I'm a housewife/sahm so I'd feel lazy having someone to clean when I have the time to even if I hate doing it.  And 2) as much as I hate doing it, I just have kind of a hang-up about someone else cleaning it for me.  I blame the fact that my mother would come over and pick up a dust rag and clean the baseboards or windows and fuss at how dirty my house was even if it was mopped, vaccumed, dishes done, counters clean and wiped, etc. 

I also remember one time I grumbled about DH not helping me more around the house and at the time I was working 40 hours but to hear my mother talk, it didn't matter.  He worked hard (and I didn't?) and so shouldn't be expected to lift a finger when he got home, but once I walked in the door, I wasn't to do anything for myself besides eat until I went to bed.
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« Reply #323 on: September 18, 2013, 12:37:47 PM »
I think cleaning the house is one of those things that's terribly easy to induce guilt about. Once one of my co-workers was having some surgery (necessary but not emergency) and his parents were coming to stay with him while he recovered. For three days before their arrival he was in a frenzy cleaning his one-bedroom apartment to meet his mother's standards. I thought maybe he was just anxious about the surgery and was turning that into anxiety about his mother's disapproval of his cleanliness, so I tried to help by saying something about how it would be fine, they probably wouldn't even notice, we often see our own messes as worse than others see them, etc.. Nope. Truly, his mother had been a screaming harridan about housecleaning all through his childhood and he feared her wrath even at age 30, to the point that he was scrubbing and climbing and steaming even though he needed, you know, surgery:-\
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #324 on: September 18, 2013, 01:27:33 PM »
I just sent out a Halloween party announcement to my opera club and remembered that my mother couldn't understand Halloween.  Granted, it wasn't celebrated in her native country while she still lived there but she thought that it was strictly for children and kept asking when I was going to outgrow it.

Never!  Never, I tell you!

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« Reply #325 on: September 18, 2013, 01:30:16 PM »
Same here! I dress up to take my kids trick or treating! :)
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #326 on: September 18, 2013, 01:59:05 PM »
I just sent out a Halloween party announcement to my opera club and remembered that my mother couldn't understand Halloween.  Granted, it wasn't celebrated in her native country while she still lived there but she thought that it was strictly for children and kept asking when I was going to outgrow it.

My dad is like that concerning anything superhero related. Every time my comic-obsessed bothers start waxing poetic about the latest superhero movie or who would win in a fight between Superman and Batman, he’ll sigh and ask when will they outgrow such childish interests. But when I ask my sports-obsessed father why it is less childish to dress up in his "costume", scream at the TV every Sunday about a game which he is not actually part of and have lengthy discussions with his friends about who would win in a match between player A vs. Player B he just kind of grumbles about it being different. Seems pretty similar to me...

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #327 on: September 18, 2013, 02:03:41 PM »
... I dress up to take my kids trick or treating! :)

I have a suspicion that you dress up your kids so that they can take YOU trick or treating!   ;D

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« Reply #328 on: September 18, 2013, 02:15:04 PM »
... I dress up to take my kids trick or treating! :)

I have a suspicion that you dress up your kids so that they can take YOU trick or treating!   ;D

Who, moi?  ;D  I must admit, tis one of the perks of having a toddler now, as I still get several more years of trick or treating even when my older two decide to stop.  And when he grows out of it I'll still dress up to hand out candy. :)

DH said he thinks high school age is too old. I was TOT'ing even as a senior and unlike my friends who would just throw on old ratty clothes and go as "hobos" I still bothered to throw together a real costume. :)
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #329 on: September 18, 2013, 02:56:45 PM »
Stories about parents thinking you're childish reminds me that my mother always have condescending remarks whenever I watch sitcoms that I watched as a kid, like The Brady Bunch and Happy Days.  So what?  It's comfort TV and I'm not hurting anyone.