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Outdoor Girl

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #405 on: September 24, 2013, 10:09:50 AM »
A friend of mine's brother married a girl who was interested in all the same things he was - a lot of outdoor activities.  Then they got married.  Turns out, she didn't like any of those activities and was just doing them to please the brother.  She stopped doing all those things as soon as they were married and so has he, because she won't do them with him.  It's sad, really.

(She's a real piece of work in a whole lot of other ways, too, so I feel really badly for my friend's brother.)
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #406 on: September 24, 2013, 06:58:39 PM »
Working with charities/non-profits: apparently I'm "too young to be doing that sort of thing." I've had grey hair for ten years, now. I'm not that young.

Or, as my mom says, "Volunteering is for old people". DH and I volunteer over a thousand hours a year each. We also work full time. Why wait?  ;D
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« Reply #407 on: September 24, 2013, 08:15:27 PM »
Working with charities/non-profits: apparently I'm "too young to be doing that sort of thing." I've had grey hair for ten years, now. I'm not that young.

Or, as my mom says, "Volunteering is for old people". DH and I volunteer over a thousand hours a year each. We also work full time. Why wait?  ;D

I'm right there with you.  I find volunteering to be fun and enriching.  Why should I have to wait?

ladyknight1

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #408 on: September 24, 2013, 09:21:27 PM »
Slightly O/T. Mom is unable to work any more, but won't get involved in a group or charity where she can volunteer, because "that is what old people do". She is not old, but past the standard retirement age in the US, and volunteering would be so good for her!

But what do I know?  ::)
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #409 on: September 24, 2013, 09:31:58 PM »
My mother would scoff at volunteer work because one doesn't get paid.

She would also criticize me for going to the Met Gift Shop today to meet Placido Domingo.





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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #410 on: September 24, 2013, 09:39:53 PM »
^ Wow!

We (my younger sisters and I), were not allowed to volunteer or work other than babysitting. We had zero sense of responsibility when it was time to move out.

I guess I am the opposite of how I was raised at this point.
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #411 on: September 25, 2013, 02:53:09 AM »
I had a friend in high school who would come home with 98% on a test and be asked about the other 2%.

Mum has had a few zingers over the years. Recently she's been getting in little digs on my weight, usually done in a completely matter of fact tone:
'You used to be thin when you were 16'. For the record, I'm turning 25 and weigh about 3 kilos more than I did then. A Masters degree will do that to you.
'There's no way you could fit into your formal (prom) dress now'. Well yes, it is a little tight now. Around the bust ;D
'Are you sure that will fit?' Well, I'm wearing it now, so, yeah.
The all time heavyweight champion of criticisms was telling me at age 10 or so 'you're not important and you're not special'. She doesn't remember this, but I always will. However, she's done some pretty awesome stuff for me too, so it balances out.

My Grandmother sometimes forgets that I'm an adult as well (one of the perils of living at home still). Sometimes I have to remind her that I'm not 12 anymore.

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #412 on: September 25, 2013, 03:44:09 AM »
My mother would scoff at volunteer work because one doesn't get paid.

She would also criticize me for going to the Met Gift Shop today to meet Placido Domingo.

You're meeting Domingo? Wow!

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« Reply #413 on: September 25, 2013, 05:39:15 AM »
My folks always thought I was too old to be so into pirates and writing fanfiction about them, and when I was getting close to my 30's I was starting to believe them, until I met my best friend who is in her 50s. :)  Suddenly it didn't feel so immature anymore! :)
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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #414 on: September 25, 2013, 06:18:31 AM »
My mother would scoff at volunteer work because one doesn't get paid.

She would also criticize me for going to the Met Gift Shop today to meet Placido Domingo.

You're meeting Domingo? Wow!

I've met several of my favorite singers, but my mother never got that this is a special privilege that's important to many people.

When the rock music thing became important to me as a teen she would go on about how these people laugh at their fans after taking their money.  When I became an adult I made the decision to stop talking about any of this because I didn't need to hear that nonsense.





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« Reply #415 on: September 25, 2013, 06:34:36 AM »
Slightly O/T. Mom is unable to work any more, but won't get involved in a group or charity where she can volunteer, because "that is what old people do". She is not old, but past the standard retirement age in the US, and volunteering would be so good for her!

But what do I know?  ::)

Sure, most of our volunteers were older ladies but we also had high school students. 

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #416 on: September 25, 2013, 09:26:16 AM »
My Grandmother sometimes forgets that I'm an adult as well (one of the perils of living at home still). Sometimes I have to remind her that I'm not 12 anymore.

My grandmother is like this, and probably for the same reason (I'm still living at home too.) She always seems surprised when I remind her I can drive, and have a proper job. She has also recently started needing convincing that I have actually finished university and have a degree already. She actually wasn't keen on my going to university in the first place - "a woman doesn't need that much education!" - so I'm surprised when she asks me how my studies are going.

Personally, I think she's starting to get me and my 16-year-old cousin mixed up. We have similar names (Emily/Amy), and both see her quite often.

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« Reply #417 on: September 25, 2013, 09:51:44 AM »
My Grandmother sometimes forgets that I'm an adult as well (one of the perils of living at home still). Sometimes I have to remind her that I'm not 12 anymore.

My grandmother is like this, and probably for the same reason (I'm still living at home too.) She always seems surprised when I remind her I can drive, and have a proper job. She has also recently started needing convincing that I have actually finished university and have a degree already. She actually wasn't keen on my going to university in the first place - "a woman doesn't need that much education!" - so I'm surprised when she asks me how my studies are going.

Personally, I think she's starting to get me and my 16-year-old cousin mixed up. We have similar names (Emily/Amy), and both see her quite often.

MIL gets like this too.  When we go to visit, we promise ourselves that we'll humor her as much as possible.  That lasts about two hours. 

If we took all her suggestions, we'd be sucking our thumbs and clutching snack bags of Cheerios to our chests by the time we headed home. 

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Re: Ridiculous things your parents criticize you about
« Reply #418 on: September 25, 2013, 10:09:43 AM »
Got one from my mom yesterday!

So, our mornings pretty much run like this: we get up, walk the dogs, Partner showers and starts getting ready for work, I make us breakfast, we eat, Partner finishes getting ready for work, I was dishes from breakfast and double check Partner remembered to pack lunch, sometimes I gather her stuff for her, kiss kiss and she's off and I...do whatever the heck I'd like to do.

Ok, so, my mom...not so thrilled at this. She thinks we should trade off who cooks breakfast and that if I cook it, Partner should clean up. She even told me I should just make my own breakfast so Partner doesn't think she's "in charge of me" and what would Partner do if I just stopped making breakfast? Well, she moved out of her mom's house 10 years ago but only moved in with me 2 years ago, so that's 8 years she was in charge of her own breakfast so I'm pretty sure she'd just make her own food (actually longer, her mom didn't exactly make breakfast every morning).

My mother is very concerned about me "giving up my power" (over breakfast food apparently) and Partner thinking she "controls" me or that I take over too many of "housewife" duties.  ::) I work from home, so while I'm working I'll pick up around the house.  And why wouldn't I make her food while I make me food? She makes me food when she makes herself food. But she actually hast to be somewhere every morning at a designated time. Me? Not so much.

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« Reply #419 on: September 25, 2013, 10:32:53 AM »
My folks always thought I was too old to be so into pirates and writing fanfiction about them, and when I was getting close to my 30's I was starting to believe them, until I met my best friend who is in her 50s. :)  Suddenly it didn't feel so immature anymore! :)

I'm almost 50 and I'm writing Dragon Age fanfic. And I'm having a lot of fun with it.

And my mom was constantly criticizing me for only thinking about 'those games'.  I got the last laugh on that when I had to play one of those games for a college course. And rolling all those dice has given me an intuitive understanding of probability and statistics; I got an award for tutoring my peers in those subjects. Mom was all  ???