OP, are you certain the poster who expressed dismay at not being invited wasn't kidding?
I got married with out telling anyone and then just changed my relationship status to married on facebook and one of my best friends on the planet commented
I give it two weeks.
No smiley, no winky face, what ever. I laughed out loud. Deadpan humor comes across wonderfully online sometimes.
Hi Ilrag, I certainly didn't read it as a joke. There's nothing in the comments to suggest it was - like an added congrats, or a lighthearted reply from the bride.
Your friend sounds like she has a great sense of humour & someone who knows you well enough to make that sort of joke.
Online stuff can be a bit tricky to read - tone does not always come thru as well as it might in person. That's why i prefer to use an emoticon (or saying #joke or whatever) to avoid misunderstandings.
Also, it's not a private conversation on fb - lots of people have fb friends who don't know background/context or poster so well. They may not get it & may (unjustly in the case you mention) develop a negative impression of the poster. It's really a know-your-audience sort of thing, which can be harder on fb than IRL (where you have a fair idea whether Great Aunt Mildred or the mother of the groom are in earshot).
It's really fascinating to see how people interact on line vs in real life. Loved the other threads about fb vs irl snooping too - so many different perspectives on it. One of the reasons I enjoy reading Ehell so much.& also wanted to say thanks to everyone who posted so far.
& a couple more posted while I was typing this.