Ok, she really did just think her co-worker had made a very ineresting assumption and we've been giggling about it all weekend.
So Partner and I are engaged. We're both rocking engagement rings. Now Partner happens to work around a lot of men and well...they don't tend to notice subtle changes, like a ring on the left hand (she always wore one on her right, so they thought nothing of it), right away. Well last week one of them noticed a ring on her hand and commented on it "Partner, that's a nice ring, are you engaged?", to which Partner responded "Yes, I got engaged to Glitter (they all know me) over labor day weekend". He says his congratulations and then goes "Huh, I would've figured Glitter would be the one with the engagement ring", she responds that I have one as well.
At this point co-worker is very confused looking and says "You're both wearing engagement rings? I assumed it'd just be one or the other, like ya know...the more uh...girly...of the two...I just didn't think both of you would wear...uh...engagement rings...um..", at which point partner busts out "Really? Hm, that's interesting assumption. I've known couples to do all kinds of different things", and which point co-worker says "Yeah, I guess you're right. Well congratulations!", then the talked about if donuts were still left in the conference room.
I've never actually seen someone be surprised BOTH women are rocking engagement rings. My best friend (female) got married to a fella who wanted to wear an engagement ring, which raised a lot of eyebrows. He said he wanted it because he made a commitment to her and wanted to show the world (aw, sweet). We also have a pair of lesbian friends (already married) who only one wore an engagement ring, and people raised eyebrows.
We were giggling over how flustered he got realizing that he was implying one of us was the "man" and one of us the "woman", and then expecting us to conform to gender norms. How he arrived to the conclusion I'm the girly one I'm not sure. I do wear more purple and pink and of course glitter then she does, so maybe that's it. I was just excited she used the phrase!