My boyfriend is traveling for work right now. I can reach him in an emergency, but doing so is disruptive to both him and his coworkers. On his way home, they are planning to drop him off in my city so he and I can hang out for my birthday next week and then fly home. He lives in the same state, but a few hours away.
However, him being gone has given me time to think and I've decided I no longer want to pursue this relationship. He's not abusive or a bad person, but I'm just not wanting to continue this any longer.
So, I see I have two options here. One, use the emergency contact line and dump him that way so he doesn't end up coming here. Pros - gets it done faster and I don't have to play nice on my birthday. Cons - This would be disruptive to him at work and his coworker who has the emergency phone. He'll have to pay the change fee on his flight from here to home, but on the plus side he would have the rest of the ticket value available to him for future travel.
The other option is to pretend like everything is fine this visit, make a nice week of it for us both, and then dump him about a week after he goes home. Pros - I don't have to disrupt anyone. Cons - could be rude/duplicitous to do this.
Having him come here, get dumped, and having an awkward week and/or paying an airline change fee just seems rude.
What is the polite thing to do here?