This quote from the "Silly things that made you happy" thread:
Watching my DD "helping" her little brother register for his college courses.....
She might be turning into a helicopter sibling. We'll have to watch that.
made me smile and brought back a memory.
When my brother was 16 (I was 19) he started his first real part-time job*. One Saturday morning, after about a month or so of him working, I was in the kitchen and he flew out of his bedroom in a very frantic mode:
Bro: Oh! No! NO! NO! I'm 10 minutes late already! I need to eat breakfast. No! I can't eat breakfast I need to take a shower! I can't work all day without eating! I should just get dressed and go. They're going to fire me! Why didn't I hear my alarm? I'm in sooo much trouble! etc.
Me: STOP! The first thing you need to do is call them. There's the phone. Apologize for being late and let them know that you will be there in 15-20 minutes.
Bro: Call them? They're going to yell at me!
Me: At least they'll know that you're still coming in and not ditching the job. It was a simple mistake, but the sooner they know the better it will be for you.
Bro (still looking like deer in the headlights): Okay. okay. I gotta call them.
and he did.
Bro (on the phone): I'm so sorry that I'm late, but I'll be there in less than 20 minutes. Okay. Thank you. Thank you so much!
After he got off the phone, Bro looked at me in awe and said "They didn't even sound mad."
Me: It's the communication thing. You gotta let them know. Now, go take a shower and get dressed. I'll make you a quick breakfast to go.
Fortunately we lived only a 5 minute drive away from his work.
30+ years later, when I saw him last year, he asked me "Do you remember that day? I'll never forget it. You taught me about communication. Thank you." (that's an abbreviated conversation, not word-for-word.)
Bro is now quite the big-wig in a very large corporation.
Now, I'm certainly not saying that my "STOP! and call them now" is the only reason that he has achieved what he has, but it was good to hear that 30+ years ago I gave him a bit of advice that he still remembers.
What about you? What is the best advice you gave to a sibling?
Or -- what is the best advice that was given to you from a sibling?
(or friend/parent/relative, etc.)
*Bro ended up working at this job, transferring to other locations, during his college days. He left as a manager.