My acquaintance Hazel doesnít have a car. Her grandchildren are in foster care in a town 90 minutes away (donít get me started on that). There is some relative there who works in our city and could drop the kids off at Hazelís, but they are not willing to do so.
A month ago, I stupidly made a spur-of-the moment offer to drive Hazel down to pick up the grandkids and bring them back for a weekend. I assumed it would happen either that weekend or the next. For one reason or another, it hasnít happened, and Hazel assumes that Iíll do it whenever itís convenient for her and the kids.
Iím tired of having this hanging over my head, and I donít want to do it anymore. It feels like I have to leave room in my schedule every week, although I told Hazel that I would need advance notice. To her, that probably means two days.
I am now dreading the trip, which I expect to be a disaster for me. I fully expect it to turn into a full day of me running them around to pick up things, or getting drug into long family drama conversations that delay the drive back to our city. (The plan is that someone else will pick up the kids here and drive them back home.)
Would it be rude to withdraw my offer? What would be acceptable reasons for me to announce that Iíve changed my mind?