I worked 2 full time jobs when I lived at home, and I would bank one of those checks instead of spending it. I would still marry husband, but put some money away for just me, that he wouldn't know about. I would maybe have had a couple more children, I really regret having only 3, when I really wanted more, that sounds crazy, even writing it down.
When he leaves, I would keep the kids with me, instead of letting them go with him, beacuse I have smartly kept a stash of money in which to live on instead of having nothing.
I would also hope that DF and I still crossed paths, because I really really love this man, and he treats me like no other man in my life ever has.