I am very glad to see some of these opinions right now
DH has some friends who keep inviting us to late-night things. I stay home with the kids, DH goes. Our go-to sitters are usually family members. I don't want to deal with picking up sleeping children from someone else's home at 11 PM. In the past, I have had family members dump my wine down the sink when they had access to my home(family's religion forbids alcohol, and other things DH and I have and use often, also some family members have a more stringent view on certain "rules" than the rest of the religion officially has) so I prefer not to give unlimited access to my home and possessions to any of them.
DH is sad I don't go to these late-night events. He says that Friends say we can bring the kids. I ask, "Will there be other children?" "Well no." "Will there be alcohol?" "Well yes." "Will there be adults I don't know, inebriated and around my children?" About that time he catches on and there's a bit of frustration because he just wants to go OUT.
I'm fine with going out. It just has to be early enough that we can pick up the kids from the sitters' home before
they fall asleep...otherwise we are up all night getting them back to sleep, after they wake on the ride home. It sucks, but it's what we signed up for in having children, and I certainly didn't create them all by myself.