<<Does anyone else on here find it rude when people tell you to "get a man">>
Heh. Funny you should post this. I had somebody tell me back in October/November that I needed 'some d!ck'. That I needed to get laid, and blah blah blah. She later admitted I turned beet red, so she KNEW good and well how angry she had made me... She couldn't exactly tell me to get a man, as I've been married 23+ years.
I was SO PO'd I wouldn't talk to her for a few weeks. She got progressively more and more 'kiss-buttish' after that, and sent me a pseudo sweet sentimental email (of a kind I deeply dislike) and I finally laid it all out and told her chapter and verse how angry she had made me, how offended I was by what she had said leading up to her final words, and that I would never again be helping her on stuff as I had in the past, and that 'my friends do NOT speak to me that way. Ever. Didn't do it in high school in our crudest days, and don't do it now. People who do that prove themselves to not be my friend. And she was never again to ask me for classroom assistance. If I were to do something that ticked her off, I expected her to be a grownup and come and tell me so directly, and we'd move on from there."
The next time I saw her, she said she didn't know I had it in me to lay it on the line like that. I looked at her and said that I shouldn't have needed to do so. See, I'm 51, and she's about 45 or so. I though she was a nice friend. Not deepest heart buddies, but friendly and trustworthy and adult. Guess I thought wrong! We're still amiable, but I no longer trust her. Yes, she has family issues going on, but that doesn't justify what she did, IMHO, and I now treat her as a friendly acquaintance and no more than that. I refuse to be more than that with somebody who angered me so badly. It took me hours to calm down that night, and my family knew how angry I was - what kind of doormat behavior would I model for my girls if I let that kind of crap slide??? So, I stuck up for myself, even while I hugely resented that I had to do so.