Well, the party is over, I have a mountain of cupcakes left over, and .. it all went surprisingly well, actually! Perhaps it was helped by the fact I was so disorganised and run off my feet to notice anything but the day seemed to be pretty much drama-free.
BiL didn't come - I didn't really think he would, but it would have been nice to see him. We'll see abut having him over one of these days for cupcakes and gaming instead.
SiL and Friend came together. They also gave a card, signed Friend, SiL and Friend's kids. (SiL had told me on Friday that she and BiL had bought something for DS months ago, so the card, I thought was a bit
) Friend stayed with DH most of the day, manning the BBQ. SiL brought her dogs, which I thought was another
moment as our property is not dog-friendly and there were small kids running around. But given the recent events, forethought may not be one of her strongest characteristics.
BiL2 was in good spirits, so no dramas on that front. Actually, the only thing that really bothered DH was his dad backseat-driving the BBQ and telling him how to cook. (And for me, my folks trying to talk about planned renovations while I'm trying to do a zillion things at once). One friend did FB-message me and ask what the deal was with SiL, but aside from that the topic didn't seem to be mentioned. And elephant in the room, yes, but it wore a party hat and blended in.
Overall, a good day was had. The weather was flawless, and the birthday boy had tons of fun. And that's the main thing!
Thank you all so much for your insights and advice! Who wants birthday cupcakes?