(Apologies in advance if this subject matter is inappropriate in any way. I have an etiquette question, and I need impartial advice!)
BG: Earlier this year, I suffered a miscarriage and was told not long afterward that I could never have any more children. Only my family and a few friends know....and they also know that this was a devastating blow for me. I am trying to learn to accept this, but it is a slow process and I am grieving every day. (My family tells me that I "just need to be grateful" for my DD. Please know that I am.
One of these close friends, M, just had her third child. She also has two other children (the youngest of those is ten - this was definitely a "surprise"!) I am very happy for her, but....she "vented" to me quite a bit during this pregnancy (how fat she was getting, how expensive this was all going to be, etc.) It was difficult for me to listen to, but I tried my best to be supportive, and I think I was. Now that this (stunningly beautiful!) baby is here, she was been sending me quite a lot of pictures (via text - she's still in the hospital) accompanied by texts such as "I'm so happy!!" "Look, how sweet!" "I'm so lucky!"
I know that she wouldn't hurt me for the world, but every time I check my phone....well, it hurts. My situation is still very new and painful to me and I'm learning to adjust to it. In time, I know I'll be able to throw baby showers again....shop for baby clothes for friends.... (and I did pack up DD's baby clothes to give to her) and all of that, but right now....I just can't. I realize this probably makes me a special snowflake. (Although if it makes me look any better, I did just attend my nephew's baptism - so I haven't ceased all baby activities!)
My etiquette question is this: is there a polite way to request that these texts....cease? or at least, let up, for the time being? Should I just be honest with her and let her know that while I am genuinely happy for her, these texts are somewhat wrenching as well? Do I just need to get over myself? I don't know if there's a polite way to tell a proud mother to stop sending pictures of her beautiful newborn! Would it be horrible to request it - even? (This was not an issue at all when my nephew was born, but then....SIL was not sending nearly so many pictures and texts.)