I can't believe anyone could possibly see anything bad in this. I really can't. What on earth is the world coming to when a couple's wedding is *cancelled*, the parents do something *amazing* for less fortunate people off the back of it, and other people are saying "But what about my dinner?!"
I think a perspective check might be needed.
I don't think anyone's said that. We're just discussing, in an abstract way, the actual etiquette of the situation. Because I doubt anyone here would begrudge a homeless person a meal. And as others have said, I really doubt any of the actual guests would want to attend this meal with the guests from the other side and discuss the breakup. I don't think anyone would argue that the bride and groom are still on the hook for providing a free meal for their guests after cancelling their wedding.
But this situation really has to do with the generosity of the family, which was wonderful. But not to do with etiquette. Some of us, from the perspective of detatched onlookers, are just thinkng about some of the more delicate points, like, would anyone, in fact, be annoyed as an univited guest in this situation?
Even if they were annoyed, and I think guests who had outlayed considerable effort or money in terms of tickets, or holiday leave, or whatever, have a right to be annoyed at the situation, like a previous poster said. At an annoying situation, rather than specifically at the people involved. And I doubt if any were annoyed, that they would say a word to anyone, because the breakup of the relationship
is more important of course. But that doesn't mean the situation isn't inconvenient for these guests.
I just wondered about the abstract situation of un-inviting a bunch of people, and then re-inviting a bunch of different people to eat the meal.