Going forward, I think I'm just going to stay out of it and let everyone else sort out the transportation. I will definitely do so for next week's party.
As far as youngest daughter goes, she's sort of a tough case in that she lives with mental illness. We all, as a family, have given her a lot of leeway because of this. She's a smart girl, though, and able to do the things that she wants to do, whether it be to travel from the city to the suburbs via public transportation, switching from buses to trains, etc. I just wish she felt the need to do more with her life like get a job, further her education, do some volunteer work or anything else that might help her build a good life for herself. Also, she knows how to drive - I taught her and other family members used to take her out to practice. She just never followed through. Instead, she chooses to mooch of an elderly uncle (who allows it, so I blame him as well) and hang out with her no good boyfriend who would rather live in a shelter, hang around his brother's house playing video games and smoking marijuana than do anything to make a life for himself.
She has a couple of different diagnoses going on, one of which is schizoaffective disorder and if she suffered from only that, I think she'd be doing well as she seems to be learning to manage it pretty well. Unfortunately she was also diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. She seems to love to stir up trouble. When she was living in a group home, I can recall her laughing and telling me how she would pit one girl against another and then sit back and watch them fight. It's gotten to the point where I don't believe at least half of what she tells me. She's done many other things. I even had to press charges on her for something very serious when she was still a teen that got her sent away to residential treatment. She knows right from wrong but will often choose wrong and not care about who gets hurt until it comes back to effect her.
Her sisters are tired of the never ending drama and don't have anything left to give. They've been through hell. And to be honest, I'm pretty much done, too. If she ever wants to make an honest effort to pull her life together, I'll do whatever I can to make it happen (and I'm pretty sure her sisters would too), but we've all been burned too many times at this point. It's heartbreaking, but it's the ugly reality of the situation. I guess if there is an up side, she's a smart and pretty girl and she always finds a way to get by. Meanwhile I try to keep enough contact so that I know she's okay and I keep her in my prayers.