This past weekend, there was a large convention in my city of members of another board I'm on. I was unable to make it, but contacted a friend who was attending to see if she wanted to have lunch on Saturday. Friend is from the U.K. and thus she told me something about if she texts/calls someone in the U.S., she gets charged extravagant fees. I include this for the inevitable question when I present what happened
. Anyway, Friend and I can obviously only see one another when she's here for Convention.
We made plans via private messaging on the site. I suggested meeting in front of a fountain in the lobby of the hotel; she came back and said "Let's meet in front of Restaurant at 12 Noon". I agreed.
I arrived in front of Restaurant (which was very close to the hotel) at 11:50 and waited. And waited. I waited until 12:50. I went into the restaurant twice, which was small, but did not see her. I walked up and down the street, no luck. At 12:50, I gave up and went home. I didn't go to the hotel because I was so mad and hurt that I feared creating more of a scene. I didn't want to grovel for attention, either. Maybe a mistake, but later on, DH told me I did the right thing by not confronting her at the hotel. She can be a sweet person, hence the friendship, but also difficult and volatile.
I got on the site and there was a nasty PM saying "I blocked out my entire afternoon for you and you *bleep* me over. You're *bleep*ed up. Never contact me again".
When I was calm-er, I wrote back: "I was in front of Restaurant at noon Saturday, as we agreed. Nevertheless, I will respect your wishes and cease all contact".
I bet what happened was that she waited at the fountain for me. But even so, with the restaurant so close, why didn't SHE come out and walk down to check? It was her arrangement to meet at the restaurant. If she'd somehow been inside, why didn't she check outside?
I don't know what happened, and probably won't ever. But did I really royally mess up here, or was none of this my fault?
Believe me, I've combed over the entire thing and except for not going to the hotel myself (which I thought was the right choice), I got nuthin', and lost a friend