POD to the others. I think she had a huge overreaction, jumping straight to maliciousness when there were so many more realistic causes--including the possibility that she herself messed up! If she
finds this worth ending your friendship over, honestly, I might think I dodged a bullet there.
I never know what to do when this sort of thing happens.
My first thought is always that I'm the one in the wrong place/time. I think I might have gone into the restaurant and started eating ('cause I have to eat on time), letting them know I was waiting for someone if they saw/heard an English woman wandering around. At least I would've gotten a meal out of it!
Sometimes there's a mix-up like this when I'm trying to get together with co-workers at a conference and at some point I'm usually just like, eh, they're adults. I'm not gonna stand there for an hour, starving, waiting for someone to show up, like we can't figure out how to eat at a restaurant by ourselves, you know? I'll get my meal, and try to make sure that I'm not doing anything dumb like waiting at the wrong place or missing my calls, and I'll assume they're self-reliant enough to get their own meal somewhere else, and we'll connect later. But, that situation is a little different, because we see each other all the time--the point of the meal is really to have a meal, not to connect with each other and catch up. And some of my co-workers are a little flaky or extremely laidback compared to me, so *I* would end up feeling like the silly one if they were like, "Yeah, we decided to do some shopping first. Oh, you didn't wait on us, did you?"
Not anymore, I don't...