I don't remember who went to sleep first, my brother/girlfriend or my dad. If I had to throw out a guess, I think it was my brother and girlfriend (they at least left the room where the rest of us were first, but I don't know when they decided to nap/fell asleep).
My expectations with my brother are not particularly high. We get along okay, but have totally different worldviews, so we don't tend to have very meaningful conversations without getting into debates. He's good with the kids and a fun guy, so I don't mind visiting with him, but I don't really expect to have a deep and meaningful relationship
. So I'm not really disappointed, exactly, about the visit, just surprised, and was wondering what others would think of it. I'm not mad or upset with him about it.
I suppose I was vaguely annoyed at the time because of Mom and I feeling at sort of a loss for what we were supposed to do, not knowing how long people would be sleeping, not wanting to start an activity or something. But just mild annoyance, no more than that.
Perhaps it wasn't clear in my original post, but I do actually find my dad's naps kind of annoying. I think part of it is just a personality thing, though. Because if/when I nap, I do it in my bed. Much more conducive to sleep, and then you aren't making other people uncomfortable by sleeping in a public area. My aunt has taken naps at every gathering since I was a child, but she was diagnosed with MS when I was 12 and it's now pretty advanced, so I'd file that one under "medical reason." I think mostly the reason I was surprised about my brother napping was the length and infrequency of their visit, and because I tend to think of my dad as being "old" and old people as being more likely to need naps, versus somebody my age, you know? I guess that's ageism.